Mikki Mars Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 so since October I have been friends with this girl who was dating this guy, and as we've been friends, she's never brought up her boyfriend, never said the word "boyfriend" around me, or his name. We've gotten lunch here at school many times, and I went to NYC with her friends for a show last month. I saw her this weekend outside the dorm, asked what's up, she immediatley told me she broke up with her "boyfriend" (who I overheard was gay when I was in NYC with her and her friends and she didn't contest it) and then I asked her out. I asked her to come watch a movie, she asked me what I was doing Tuesday, that we should go to the theater. I text her Tuesday, and she replies "oh I didn't think we definitely decided THIS Tuesday. Could we do a different Tuesday?" I was like "o u said Tuesday so I thought u were thinking of this one haha" and she was like "oh I meant that on Tuesdays thye have a special deal," so I texted back, "We'll figure something out." Whats the deal with her? Is she interested? Is she also playing hard to get? She DID tell me first thing when I saw her how her bf and her broke up, and didn't reject me there and then when I asked her out. Seeing how she blew me off, whatever, what should my next move be? Should I just wait until she wants to hang out and initiates with me? What should I do? When she and I have talked, I have made her laugh, and she twirled her hair to me when we went to NYC. She also asked me once if I like a certain trait in girls. Link to post Share on other sites
MistaDynamic Posted March 31, 2011 Share Posted March 31, 2011 so since October I have been friends with this girl who was dating this guy, and as we've been friends, she's never brought up her boyfriend, never said the word "boyfriend" around me, or his name. We've gotten lunch here at school many times, and I went to NYC with her friends for a show last month. She liked the attention you paid to her. She was just using you to boost her self esteem and not mentining her boyfriend was tactic to keep you interested. I saw her this weekend outside the dorm, asked what's up, she immediatley told me she broke up with her "boyfriend" (who I overheard was gay when I was in NYC with her and her friends and she didn't contest it) and then I asked her out. I asked her to come watch a movie, she asked me what I was doing Tuesday, that we should go to the theater. I text her Tuesday, and she replies "oh I didn't think we definitely decided THIS Tuesday. Could we do a different Tuesday?" I was like "o u said Tuesday so I thought u were thinking of this one haha" and she was like "oh I meant that on Tuesdays thye have a special deal," so I texted back, "We'll figure something out." Hard to say she could have genuine miscommunication or she has new guy in the picture or she wants to be in picture. Whats the deal with her? Is she interested? Is she also playing hard to get? She DID tell me first thing when I saw her how her bf and her broke up, and didn't reject me there and then when I asked her out. Seeing how she blew me off, whatever, what should my next move be? Should I just wait until she wants to hang out and initiates with me? What should I do? When she and I have talked, I have made her laugh, and she twirled her hair to me when we went to NYC. She also asked me once if I like a certain trait in girls. I would say she's definitely interested BUT she's on the rebound. She likes the attention you give her, and loves the thought that other men besides her ex find her attractive. Alot of women feel less than when they break up with boyfriend and a new guy showing attention boosts their self esteem, which they adore. What you should do is err on the side of caution and assume it was a genuine miscommunication and ask her out again. However this time don't make it too far into the future. Make the date within a day or so and make sure it's a romantic date not friend date. Movies are for friends. It has to be something YOU want to do! Don't try to impress her. Make her impress you. You don't want to be with a women who has different interests than you so by doing what you want to do you can find out quickly if she can't fit into YOUR life. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 1, 2011 Share Posted April 1, 2011 another dreaded friends zone situation... Link to post Share on other sites
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