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Never had a girlfriend before, and I don't really worry about it!


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I have realized that I really don't need a girlfriend at all. No, this doesn't mean that I want to be single for the rest of my life. Actually, my reason for not needing is that relationships are made and broken all the time -- whether they lasted about a week or 3 years. I guess what I am trying to say is that, I think it's better that I get to know as many single girls as possible and decide on "the one" to come into my life. (And even if we break up or something goes wrong, at least I will lose my virginity to someone that matches my interests best at the time.)

 

I know I will find the "one" at some point in my life. :love:

I am going to save my "goods" just for her. ;)

 

And until then, I am going to enjoy doing what I love to do on my own time and with my cliques.

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Im 24 and I never had a gf either. HOWEVER, this shouldnt stop you from dating.

 

I'm a constant dater but I never commit to a relationship, just the way I am.

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this is a good mentality to carry, just work on yourself, confidence, confidence, confidence and be social and talk to girls. That's all you have to do the more you talk to them the better you'll get, and I'm sure you'll find some you'll like along the way.

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Having a girlfriend doesn't have to be the important thing, but wanting to share your life with someone... If you want your independence, why have a girlfriend?...... you need to want it and be able to share your experiences..... that is to have a girlfriend, to have a girlfriend just to say you have a girlfriend is ridiculous

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About sex.... My perspective is.... you also need to click there.... sex is important, it is an important part of the relationship...

You sound too catholic. I am not catholic, I am not an atheist... I just think, sex and passion is an important part of the relationship...

If you don't have a click there, even if you get along great with your girl, you are not gonna feel comfortable with her.. because sex is a human need. ...... love is committment, passion and intimacy.

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Having a girlfriend doesn't have to be the important thing, but wanting to share your life with someone... If you want your independence, why have a girlfriend?...... you need to want it and be able to share your experiences..... that is to have a girlfriend, to have a girlfriend just to say you have a girlfriend is ridiculous

Because I want someone who will truly love me for who I am, not just someone we'll probably end up breaking in a few weeks. And I disagree entirely with that last sentence.

About sex.... My perspective is.... you also need to click there.... sex is important, it is an important part of the relationship...

You sound too catholic. I am not catholic, I am not an atheist... I just think, sex and passion is an important part of the relationship...

If you don't have a click there, even if you get along great with your girl, you are not gonna feel comfortable with her.. because sex is a human need. ...... love is committment, passion and intimacy.

I am not Catholic either. Sex sounds great and I would love to have it, but only with the right girl. I always get horny when I think of sex, but I will not give up my virginity to just *anyone*. I know friends who made the mistake of giving up their virginity to girls they regret even having sex with.

 

By the way, I don't believe in marriage... I think the whole concept is absurd and should only be for religious people. I want a pretty (white/tan, brunette, nice tits, nice ass, average to slim build) girl who I can make love to and tell her my stories, but without the need for marriage. I want to find this type of woman who will want me. I know I look rather different than most men (I have long hair and I dress like an '80s metalhead), but I know I will find someone who is attracted to the way I look. I look better than most dudes I see with girlfriends, and certainly I have a better personality (I am insightful, respectful of peoples' views and opinions, and much more) than them.

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With this approach, I like it, but I would change it a slight bit.

 

I like the networking aspect of it, getting to know more people, men or woman, this is good. Get emails.

 

I know one thing that would help you in this situation, just visualize every girl that you meet is like your little sister (I say little sister because I do not have a big sister, do what works for you)

 

If she is being a brat, tell her that, let her feel comfortable around you, but dont let her give you a headache. Little sisters around the world can be big headaches at all ages, if you let them.

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I'm 28, and never really had a girlfriend, either. I don't really worry about it - love will come when it does!

 

My cousin met his first girlfriend when he was 29, and didn't have his first kiss until then, either. And there have been many other stories of people finding love later in life.

 

I just observe and like to offer advice to my friends on their relationships. I understand how a relationship works, just haven't met that special girl yet!

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This is a great attitude to have. When I was single it did used to bother me that I'd had never had a bf before but I got to the point where I thought I just have to live my life and not worry about it. Anyway I got my first real job after uni and I met my bf in my training group :), totally unexpected and I was 22.

We became great friends first then after a few months we naturally got together. I believe when you meet the right person you just naturally click with them.

I think with your attitude it'll not be long until you find someone too :). I wish my friend was like you, she is 23 and never had a bf and she is very bitter about it.

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I have realized that I really don't need a girlfriend at all. No, this doesn't mean that I want to be single for the rest of my life. Actually, my reason for not needing is that relationships are made and broken all the time -- whether they lasted about a week or 3 years. I guess what I am trying to say is that, I think it's better that I get to know as many single girls as possible and decide on "the one" to come into my life. (And even if we break up or something goes wrong, at least I will lose my virginity to someone that matches my interests best at the time.)

 

I know I will find the "one" at some point in my life. :love:

I am going to save my "goods" just for her. ;)

 

And until then, I am going to enjoy doing what I love to do on my own time and with my cliques.

 

I've just recently started to embrace a similar mentality myself. Ironically, it's now that the guys are expressing interest...

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I've just recently started to embrace a similar mentality myself. Ironically, it's now that the guys are expressing interest...

 

isn't it funny how it works out that way. I have been preaching this advice forever now you guys should read the post "for those of looking for love."

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