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Ok so I've narrowed my dating pool down to 2 guys that I really like. Guy #1 I've been dating for 5 months, he says he really likes me and he spends most of his time with me. So he mentioned that he has never had a threesome and really wants one with me and another girl (possibly a friend of mine). I was shocked and disturbed by this. I always felt that a guy who really likes you wouldn't ask you this (I've already mentioned to him that I had one many years ago). I was upset so I began to lean more towards Guy# 2 who I've been dating for 3 months. So he recently ALSO asked about having a 3 some and that I should supply the girl. !!! What is going on here? What do I say to these men!? Is this normal?
I believe most guys would opt for a threesome if they are given a choice. If you don't feel comfortable, simply let whichever guy you're more interested know.
Ok so I've narrowed my dating pool down to 2 guys that I really like. Guy #1 I've been dating for 5 months, he says he really likes me and he spends most of his time with me. So he mentioned that he has never had a threesome and really wants one with me and another girl (possibly a friend of mine). I was shocked and disturbed by this. I always felt that a guy who really likes you wouldn't ask you this (I've already mentioned to him that I had one many years ago). I was upset so I began to lean more towards Guy# 2 who I've been dating for 3 months. So he recently ALSO asked about having a 3 some and that I should supply the girl. !!! What is going on here? What do I say to these men!? Is this normal?
Yes this is very normal as it is every man's fantasy to have a third join in. But if the tables were turned and
you wanted the third to be a guy hmmm what would
be his response.
Geepers, yes I would agree it's many guys fantasy/desire to have a 3some but I am surprised they both almost simutaneously approached you about this. Do you have mostly a sexual relationship w/ these guys? Do they actually want to date you or just have sex is what I'd be wondering.
If you told them both that you previously had a threesome with another girl...its like dangling a carrot. Thats why.
Its more then that, it is a statement that you cared more for the guy you had a threesome with or any other act that you did with him and you are now denying the new boyfriend. He has just become second best, someone you will settle for. Unless you are willing to state some moral reason why you will not do X anymore you can't turn down your sexual menu. Its like a shark, you have to keep moving forward or die.
Finding a faith and something greater is an example of moving forward. Continuing on to a swingers lifestyle is the another example.
I'm a guy and I don't want a threesome! At least not with a girl I love. (For casual sex I'm sure it's fun) I don't want to share her, not with another guy or girl. She's MINE, hands off
The best part about sex with someone you love is the intimacy, imho if someone else was there it would ruin it. Maybe i'm just a hopeless romantic.
Oh and by the way, there's 3 people involved here already Suggest that to them, it might put them off.
As has been said, let them know that this is an option ONLY if they are willing to be an active participant in a threesome with two guys and you.
Oddly, most guys think a threesome with two women is acceptable while a threesome with two men is "weird." We men (and I include myself) have been brainwashed into believing that most women like to make out with other women, and yet if we sit back and think about making out with a man, then we cannot.
Asking for a threesome of any type with anyone that you want to be committed to is simply wrong, and it shows a lack of interest in committing to one person. IMO you should not be stooping to their level. If you are not interested in a threesome and consider it offensive, then move on to a guy who is willing to make a commitment to one person.
Fantasies are one thing. Many men (and I again include myself) would find two women together exciting, but that does not mean we would want our own gf to be one of them. Fantasies are always better than reality.
As has been said, let them know that this is an option ONLY if they are willing to be an active participant in a threesome with two guys and you.
Oddly, most guys think a threesome with two women is acceptable while a threesome with two men is "weird." We men (and I include myself) have been brainwashed into believing that most women like to make out with other women, and yet if we sit back and think about making out with a man, then we cannot.
If she doesn't want a threesome period, then she should stick to just saying no, and not reword it like this. If her guy actually is into a three way with her and another guy, she just dug herself into a deeper hole.
Ok so I've narrowed my dating pool down to 2 guys that I really like. Guy #1 I've been dating for 5 months, he says he really likes me and he spends most of his time with me. So he mentioned that he has never had a threesome and really wants one with me and another girl (possibly a friend of mine). I was shocked and disturbed by this. I always felt that a guy who really likes you wouldn't ask you this (I've already mentioned to him that I had one many years ago). I was upset so I began to lean more towards Guy# 2 who I've been dating for 3 months. So he recently ALSO asked about having a 3 some and that I should supply the girl. !!! What is going on here? What do I say to these men!? Is this normal?
Both guys seem like ****ing asswipes...What kind of guy suggests a thing like that?
i used to think I wanted two girls at once, but when I actually had my chances, yes, chances, as in it was offered to me several times, I realized, ya know what, im not that guy. it just felt wrong. and i declined. period. it’s just some stupid fantasy that guys talk about for some reason. like they are cool if they do that because they see it on porn. I think its freakin stupid and its ridiculous. so not every guy out there is like that is my point. point #2, its just weird that you happen to wind up with two guys that asked the same thing. maybe you should consider ditching both of them and find someone else that is just happy with you. in my mind, if they are asking for that now, will you have to worry about them cheating down the road. probably.
Yes this is very normal as it is every man's fantasy to have a third join in. But if the tables were turned and
you wanted the third to be a guy hmmm what would
be his response.
To be honest. I am one guy who does not have a thing for a threesome. I mean, I only have one penis. Would I turn it down? Probably not. Is this important to me? No. It never has been. I would rather have a great relationship with one woman along with passion and bang my brains out than two women.
I don't like to share, so I can understand you being hurt over this. Go with your feelings. Your intimacy is your choice. DO not do anything that you are uncomfortable with.
Indeed. OP has been dating one guy for 3 months, and the other for 5? OP, at what point do you start dating people exclusively? A year? You only have yourself to blame, frankly.
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Suggest that to them, it might put them off.
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