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Old 15th July 2003, 10:22 AM   #1
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i need advice!please!

I have recently met this new group of guys through a friend's b/f. I have even been on one date with one of the guys, but more just to have something to base my "nochemistry" thing on! (he's a great guy, but I don't want to lead him on...he likes me a lot more than i like him).Anyway, on Saturday, my friends went to a party that the guys were having (I had previous plans). One of my friends ends up having a makeout session with one of the guys i had, at one point, expressed interest in (Pete). At the time that she told me, it didn't bother me, but now it's all i can think about! I just don't know why she would, when she's knows he doesn't live in the same province, and is a bit of a player.

On the side, there's a guy (aaron) that I met a few weeks ago through my sister's friend, whom I have become really intrigued by. We haven't gotten to talk just one on one, but i would love to. It seems that guys that I'm not attracted to in a romantic way, I can talk to very easily, but I totally "spazz out" when i am attracted to them romantically. In the case of Aaron, the 2nd time I saw him, I did the above (spazzed). He was with his brother and a friend, so I didn't want to interefere....but GOD it just felt so different when i met him...like nothing. anyway, i have mentioned to my sister's friend, and she thinks i should go for it, but I don't know how? do i ask for his number? does she call him and set something up?

I'm sorry if I've been rambling, but I really want to get everything out...i appreciate any advicethanks so much.
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Old 15th July 2003, 5:11 PM   #2
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A Question of Numbers...

jrobbies;

I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm questioning you here, because I'm just tryin' to get a handle on something.

Based on your post, you wrote the followingl;

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I have recently met this new group of guys ...
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At the time that she told me, it didn't bother me, but now it's all i can think about! I just don't know why she would...
This leads me to wonder a couple of things...

1. Did you sorta place your "claim" on the group, or are you actually interested in one guy ? :d

2. Are we to assume that your friend knew that you wanted a certain guy/guys known as "your territory" ?

Just wondering...

Curt

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Old 16th July 2003, 11:43 PM   #3
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Jrobbies,

I totally understand where your comming from when it comes to spazzing out with a guy your totally attracted to and finding it very easy to talk to a guy that your not attracted too. I have the same problem. And from what I gather, if this guy Aaron intrigues you, you should do everything in your power to see where it leads. I think with the way it sounds you can possibly get a more of a decent relationship out of this guy then if you went out with that Pete guy. So, definitly go with the guy that you have the chemistry with, or if you don't know if you have chemistry with him, just see about possibly hanging out or something. The other guy just seems to be a dud who is a player and looking to settle with whoever he can get his hands on for the night. If I were you, I would find it extremely inappropriate for this guy Pete to be having a makeout session with one of your friends, when she knows that you and him were trying to get to know eachother. So, if I were you, go talk to this guy Aaron, and see where it leads. Good luck and hope this helps.
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Old 16th July 2003, 11:45 PM   #4
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RELATIONSHIPS...Totally understand where your comming from....

Jrobbies,

I totally understand where your comming from when it comes to spazzing out with a guy your totally attracted to and finding it very easy to talk to a guy that your not attracted too. I have the same problem. And from what I gather, if this guy Aaron intrigues you, you should do everything in your power to see where it leads. I think with the way it sounds you can possibly get a more of a decent relationship out of this guy then if you went out with that Pete guy. So, definitly go with the guy that you have the chemistry with, or if you don't know if you have chemistry with him, just see about possibly hanging out or something. The other guy just seems to be a dud who is a player and looking to settle with whoever he can get his hands on for the night. If I were you, I would find it extremely inappropriate for this guy Pete to be having a makeout session with one of your friends, when she knows that you and him were trying to get to know eachother. So, if I were you, go talk to this guy Aaron, and see where it leads. Good luck and hope this helps.
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