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Hi...my first time posting. May be the wrong place for the topic?

 

Heres my story: I'm 40 ...she is 27....I

I'm in a relationship with a 32yr old....shes in relationship with a 37 yr old.

She says she likes older guys because they treat her better because of there maturity.

 

Here we go...We both work at the same place....she works nites and I work days...

I'm not really happy about things in my relationship with my girlfriend...but thats a different topic maybe.

I'm attracted to this 27yr old for various reasons...and have been for maybe the last six months....I would see and talk to her at the end of my shift every now and then and really started becoming interested in her from just casual talk with her....I found out her cell number and wanted to call or tex her so I just come out and asked her if I could call her....she seemed somewhat surprised that i asked her..(this was two months ago).

 

In the last few weeks we tex each other everynight...(while shes at work) and talk BS, flurt and cut up with each other....

 

Heres my question and where I need some input on the whole situation...

We flurt alot with one another both texting and when around each other...I more so than her tho...but she seems to like it!

 

She tells me every day at shift change to text her later...so i do...lol

Most of the time the tex conversations end up getting real flurty and sexual...shes sends me pics of her..(nude) and ask for some of me in return...She has mentioned several times that she would like to come over to my house one weekend night and hang out with me and talk and stuff.

 

I'm not sure if she is interested in more with me or if she has plans of coming over and maybe sleeping with me..She has never come out and said she would sleep with me, but... she says she has never cheated on her boyfriend before....so why would she want to come and hang with me and not expect me making that move especially after seeing some nude pics of her? I tell her all the time what she does to me and what I would like to do with her...(sexually)!

 

Help out please,

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LucreziaBorgia
so why would she want to come and hang with me and not expect me making that move especially after seeing some nude pics of her?

 

She either intends to sleep with you, or she is a garden variety "attention whore" who cannot function without objective male attention when she is involved with someone.

 

Either way, what do you expect to gain from being involved with her? Have you thought about what you stand to lose?

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Hi,

As a matter of fact I have thought about the ups and downs of the situation....The relationship that I'm in now has several issues that has been bothering me for along time now....My girlfriend has two kids (7&12)

that in my opinion are not disciplined as they should be, and aren't taught to be responsible...Its like they tell mom what there gona do instead of the way it should be. I think she trys to be a friend instead of a parent!

 

I think when teenage years come in to play that she is headed for a rough road! As far as I can tell there father is just about as lacking in those areas as there mother....I have tried several times to talk with her about situations with her kids which always ends in a fuss or she just sulks up!

 

I feel like her and I or at the end of our road together....I dont think I want to step-in as a step parent under these conditions with her kids.

I tell ya...I just don't understand her logic in parenting!

 

As for me...I was married for 13yrs to a women that hated sex! Our sex was once a month...sometimes longer...and I never steped out on her!

I got married at 23 and my hormones were running full steam at that age...the first 5 yrs were really rough on me, but I think I loved her enough that I didn't go and seek sex elsewhere!

 

I've never cheated on this girl I'm seeing now...but I don't feel there is a future with us and if I end up sleeping with this other person then I guess I will see what becomes of the situation after the fact.

 

Now...I know what your thinking or want to say...."I should be honest with my girl now and break it off before I go and cheat"!

 

Well thats a hard thing to do! But I think it's coming....

 

Thanks,

Jeff

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