adobekobe Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 Hey all, just wanted to get some advice/opinion on this matter. So, I met a girl who was on break from college during christmas week through some mutual friends. I thought there was a mutual attraction, though we didn't get to talk much. I added her on FB the next day and messaged her saying "we should hang out again." She replied saying we should. After a few back-and-forth messaging, I invited her to a hangout with mutual friends, which she politely declined (saying she had a friend's bday to go to that day). After a few more back and forth messaging, I suggested we should grab some coffee sometime (on FB messaging, not chat). She never replied. It been about 2-3 weeks now, so I'm taking it as a rejection of some sort. My question is, should I give up completely and block/ignore/un-add her? Or should I message her one more time and tell her to have a safe trip back to school (shes taking a plane back this week). I feel like I've already taken a shot to my pride (getting FB rejected), but I'm a considerate guy and would like to end with some type of positive rapport with her. I don't want to be one of those sycophant guy-friends that cling to pretty girls, waiting to pounce in the right moment. Based on what I've heard of her (from our mutual friends), she's high maintenance and very picky (since she has so many guys at her feet - from her close friend) Anyways, what does you guys/gals think? Should I be the nice guy and wish her a safe trip back? Or play the bitter dude and block/un-add/ignore her? She's already ignored me/ "rejected" me in a way, so I got nothing to lose. As of now, I am completely ready to let go and go our own way. The hard part is trying to figure out whether I should be nice (after a facebook rejection/ignoring from her part) and end things with a "have a safe trip back" message...or de-friending her from FB. Thing is, I think FB "friended" her too early, so that whether I play nice or just ignore her, I still have her listed as a friend (A friend that I don't know too well either). It seems a bit pointless, and annoying, to have a girl that "rejected/ignored" you be a constant reminder of rejection..lol So yeah, I'm not head over heels for her or anything - I don't know her enough. All I know is, she's leaving on a plane back to college (in-state, faraway), and she ignored my invite for coffee a few weeks ago. I'm ready to let go, just trying to figure out which way to go about it Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 Anyways, what does you guys/gals think? Should I be the nice guy and wish her a safe trip back? Or play the bitter dude and block/un-add/ignore her? She's already ignored me/ "rejected" me in a way, so I got nothing to lose. You know those aren't your only two options, right? Why don't you just leave it alone? If ignoring her makes you bitter, what does her ignoring you make her? Just leave it alone. If she posts a status and you have a funny/witty comment, comment on it. And that's it. And don't comment more than once in awhile. If you don't have mutual friends and will never see her again ever, then go ahead and just unfriend her; that doesn't make you bitter though, it just means you don't want some random person having access to your information. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 Dont do anything..Wait afew weeks, let her contact you on fb. If you don't hear from her within 2 weeks, YOU delete her. No need to block her, just delete. Link to post Share on other sites
Author adobekobe Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 *********UPDATE******************** Thanks for the replies everyone.. After reading all of the comments, I decided to end things with a simple wall post. I basically said too bad we couldnt hang out and have a safe trip back to school. Funny thing is, she replied almost right away saying "thanks" and "yeah its a shame." I don't want to overanalyze this, but does anyone sense a bit of sarcasm in the reply? I mean, she did choose to ignore my invite for several weeks ..lol *********************************************** Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Maybe she knew she was going to be leaving off for a few weeks, and didn't want to start any new friendships/relationships. She probably has her hands full trying to handle everyone she knows already. I wouldn't take it personally. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I would have just deleted her and not said a word. Her NON actions kind of showed you she wasn't really interested. And yes, her replying immediately just shows you that she was waiting for you to say something first. Anyway, let go and move on. Don't waste another minute thinking about her, she's not worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
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