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ilovefreshair

I'm at a breaking point and need to vent some of this frustration because I feel like I'm about to blow.

 

In the past year things for me personally have just been piling up.. frustration after frustration. First off, I'm single and trying to love it.... that's hard when you know next to no other single people! Everyone I know is either married or on their way... with a couple exceptions. I have a lot of friends, they're just all in that stage of their life where their relationship has become first and foremost to them and I can't blame them for that.

 

I have tried to focus on other things in my life and have been successful in doing so. From the outside one would think I should have a lot to be grateful for, and I truly am, but I have to admit that I feel more alone that I ever have. I have been promoted, taken courses and training to better myself, etc and continue to do so.

 

I want to travel, it's something that I absolutely LOVE to do and have always been sure to take time out of my life to do. Well now the people I used to travel with are couples... I try to get over that point but I'm reminded of all the parties this past year and how alone I feel surrounded by these same couples. I wouldn't want to travel only to feel that same way, in another country.. So I'm hesitant to go.

 

The most shocking thing about my confession, at least to me, is that I am one of those people who doesn't NEED a relationship.... at least I didn't used to. Now I find myself considering guys I KNOW aren't what I want because I know they'd date me... am I serious about persuing them? No... but the fact that they cross my mind is really messed up.

 

I'm at the point of considering a psychologist... anyone done this? I don't know what else to do!

 

My breaking point this time was that I went on a date last week. Things went well, parted ways with a hug and him setting a date for next week loosely. On my drive home he messaged me saying thank you for coming.... I thought finally I might have found someone. Certainly a guy who isn't into you wouldn't bother setting another date and following up with a message within an hour after seeing you, right??

 

Well.... I haven't heard from him in days and we had been talking every night. I messaged him and he seemed distant and trailed off. So I left it be, thought he might be busy.... days have passed and he's done nothing. Suffice to say, I very seriously doubt I'll hear from him again......

 

Gah..

 

Even if nobody reads this... it takes a load off my shoulders to have got it out.

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nobody's girl

Wow. I swear I could have written that post! :D I am in almost exactly the same situation as you. I found it was cheaper to see a psychic than a psychologist. ;) Not sure how helpful it was, but it sure was nice to hear an uninterested third party tell me that things were going to be okay (eventually).

 

Not much help, I know, but just wanted you to know that you're not alone. We all go through stuff like this.

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I'm there too...

 

All my friends are either couples or single, gay men. I have not been having any success finding potential dates on any of the sites (Plenty of Fish, OKCupid, etc.) I'm wondering if my success is a turn-off to guys who are struggling. Maybe I should post my profile here to see what you guys think and if it should be tweaked...

 

I am so lonely and frustrated and it is coming to a boiling point for me; I'm considering a 'Casual Encounters' ad just to have some physical contact with someone.

 

The ironic part is that all my friends tell me how envious and proud they are of ME for my life and lifestyle; I am working my own business, traveling extensively, and seemingly have everything except a guy. It is most frustrating for me when I have an occasional success, like getting accepted into a gallery or receiving a national award -- yet have no one to celebrate with except my friends who are couples.

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ilovefreshair

Thanks.. it does help to hear that someone knows how I feel. I don't actually think anything is wrong with me, I think it's just a REALLY difficult time in life to get through without anyone by your side and I want some ideas on how to cope with it.... I feel as though I have tried everything.

 

I absolutely understand the statement about not having people to share your successes with. It's just not the same!

 

If you'd like some input about your profile, feel free to post it. I don't mind giving you feedback!

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