Sprig Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I was quite surprised that this forum even existed, as I was coming to the site to vent and see if anyone could offer advice. Frankly, I am getting sick and tired and getting rejected. I mostly do online dating and every date goes the same way. We start chatting on the internet, exchange phone numbers and then plan to go out. We meet up and most of the time have a really nice time. Then when it comes to a second date, the answer is always the same. "You seem like a really nice person and I would like to be friends but nothing more than that." More days than not I feel I wish I could just turn off the emotion of "love" and like Spock from Star Trek and not feel emotions. If I could some how remove feelings and emotions with some magic pill I almost wonder if I would just take that pill. When I do find someone I feel really happy and enjoy that other person. When the relationship ends there is a little bit of me that dies and that hole is never really filled. I am tired of women of attracting emtionally unstable women and tired of the normal ones rejecting me. *sigh* Thanks for letting me vent. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 I'm finding that projecting a combination of sporadic instability along with a generally cool, calm and caring demeanor keeps the ladies off balance. I liken it to fencing. Parry and thrust, thrust and parry BTW, I used to be you, except maybe for a decade or two longer. Hope it doesn't take you as long .... Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 Because your probably coming off as a nice, friendly guy but not the "hunk of burning love" ( an Elvis song ) so they place you in their friends catagory. If you want to be a friend then keep things platonic but if you want to be seen as a romantic guy you have to let them know you desire them in a sexual way. If you get rejected then at least it is because they just didn't feel any chemistry and they probably won't ask you to join their friend zone. Link to post Share on other sites
Samari Posted August 14, 2009 Share Posted August 14, 2009 How old are you? Have you tried dating regularly and not through the internet? Is there a trait you possess that you think may be a turn-off to others? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sprig Posted August 15, 2009 Author Share Posted August 15, 2009 How old are you? Have you tried dating regularly and not through the internet? Is there a trait you possess that you think may be a turn-off to others? I have tried asking people out in person, but I can count on one hand the number of times I did that. I am a little shy and going up to someone who I really don't know that well and using a pickup line or asking them out just doesn't work for me. If we're in a group I at least have buffers that help the conversation move along, but that isn't always possible. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 I feel the same way you do. I am quite depressed tonight, and think I'm going to be alone forever. No one wants me except for horny old men, and I want to settle down and hopefully have kids someday. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 15, 2009 Share Posted August 15, 2009 I mostly do online dating . here is your main problem. online dating is worthless for most people Link to post Share on other sites
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