Forever Single?

[tuscansun]

So I won't blab on about the awful breakup, Ill just say it was a really long relationship that I expected to end in marriage and didn't and the ex is still making it seem like he's in love with me just doesn't have the 'courage' to work things out right now (he's sleeping with a coworker), that whole situation is quite toxic which is why Im not IN it....but anyway....

 

During the last half of the relationship and the year that followed the breakup my life was quite messy, emotionally a mess becuase of him and some major family issues~~~I'm happy to say I moved out of my apartment and back home with the folks to get stable and I have paid off nearly EVERYthing, yay me, Im finishing school and have plans for Grad school, I've rekindled my faith (I'm Christian) and have become quite a different person.

 

Problem is, every step of the way I am VERY aware of my singleness. My ex became the jerk of all jerks when we parted and even he has managed to stay in the 'relationship' that he's in for almost a year even if it was a rebound. I've talked to guys here and there but everything has pretty much ended in friendship. I'm almost 24 and I know that's young but when I thought Id be married at this point and am suddenly completely alone, it's a bit frightening. I guess I just need some encouragement that I won't be stuck alone forever just because one man messed me up a bit. It probably doesn't help that I get emails every now and again from the ex telling me he hopes we can work this out someday. Even though I dismiss him in word, in my head I think I do hope that he'll get his act together. I do NOT discuss this situation with other men but my lack of any new relationships is making me wonder if I'm giving off detached vibes. I'm trying to get more involved at church and join more small groups with people my age and such so we'll see how that goes...I just hate the days where I feel so alone and wonder if Ill still be in this single funk when Im 40

[shoesies05]

I'd say, you're 24. Im only 21 myself... but now is the time for YOU. I like being single, or being in a relationship. Though i know it can get hard when single when you go places and see all those cute little couples holding hands and so in love and all of that.

 

If its right it will happen. Right now, wanting it so badly- might set you up for getting involved with the wrong type of guy that could take advantage of you wanting a relationship so much. Id say continue with getting invloved with church, focus on school, and hang out with friends. Eventually you will meet the right person, but it should be the RIGHT person- not just anyone. And take this time as a great time to improve yourself and just have fun! To be good in a relationship, we need to be good to ourselves first and know ourselves.

 

You wont be forever single... there are plenty of people who get married later than 24, so obviously you can be with someone after 24 as well. Just be patient. You'll find someone eventually, until then... just focus on you.

 

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