spooky_52 Posted November 15, 2002 Share Posted November 15, 2002 First of all I am 19 years old and have a few questions regarding "reading signals" and "sending signals." About 3 months ago a young man my age started working at the same place I do, from the very first day everyone knew that he would only be staying with us for 3 months because he would then be going on a mission (he is LDS, also our work has a VERY high turnover rate so 3 months is no big deal). He and I became very good friends fairly quickly. We would stay up for hours almost every night after work just talking, we'd talk about everything and he even told me somethings about himself that he probably hadn't told very many other people. While we were at work I always thought we were flirting, he would always do things just to make me laugh and things like that, so I thought this could be the beginning of something. Now he is leaving in just a few days and so another girl from work and I threw a going away party for him that everyone else from work was supposed to attend but it just ended up being the three of us. She is your typical 17 year old girl, cute and perky and whatever. I am not exactly your typical 19 year old girl, I would rather be fixing something than go out dancing or something, but that never bothered him. So the three of us went out for dinner, and he being the perfect gentleman paid for dinner, then we went to a movie and that's where everything got interesting. Neither of them had ever shown any interest in each other before, yet half way into the movie I look over and see they're holding hands, then after the movie he drove us back to our cars and let me out of his car, but apparently asked her to stay. She says that they just stayed there for an hour and talked, which is all fine and dandy, but then she said that he told her that he'd liked her almost since the day he started. Now what I don't understand is why did he do all these things with me when he liked her? Did I read the signs wrong? Did he send the wrong signs? I just don't understand. I know that I am young and I shouldn't dwell on this one incident, but I don't have much experience reading signals and frankly it scares me that I may have been so off in my reading. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted November 15, 2002 Share Posted November 15, 2002 I think you read the signals wrong. When I was that age, I had a guy in my life like that too...and I was SHOCKED to find out that he didn't care fo me like that. I mean, he told me I was beuatiful, kissed my cheek, etc. But turns out we were just really REALLY close friends. And that seems to be what you two were too. Just a note for the future... Always assume you are just friends, unless they give you the word to make you think differently. It's a lot easier to go through life, not wondering if they like you, and instead just thinking, this is a really kick ass person! since I've changed my attitude about guys....I've made quite a few friends that I would MUCH rather have, than date. Link to post Share on other sites
Elizabeth Posted November 23, 2002 Share Posted November 23, 2002 Yes, you did read the signal wrongly. Ally is right - always assume friendship first. Men and women can get on great without having to bother permanently with the sexual dimention of their interaction. do not take fliritng in the workplace too seriously - it's only a bit of fun. It's cool if it goes further but if it doesn't, enjoy the buzz for what it is! ~ Liz ~ Link to post Share on other sites
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