UPDATE on girl #2 (in reference to 'summer is on the way...')

[egg]

Thanks for responding and I'll work on that brevity thing.

 

Well today I introduced myself to that girl I knew nothing about (girl #2 in my first posting) and we just said basic things, name, what we're going to school for, and summer plans as far as work goes.

I wanted to ask her if she'd like to hang out over the summer but I felt it might've been too soon to ask that or even for a phone number. Am I right? I do want to ask her eventually (before school lets out if possible) but I am trying not to rush things either. I know I don't want to just keep saying just "hi" to her in the hallway for the rest of the year.

I'd like to know what she could've possibly been thinking as far as me not asking at that time (was it good or bad). Any opinions? Do girls like a man that produces actions now!? Or would they rather have a guy take it slow and get to know her before he asks? Maybe this is one reason I end up in the "Friend Zone" so often, I admit it, I like to take things at a slower pace. So what is a good time frame as far as when to go for the number? Should I try to spark up a couple of more conversations then ask her or hunt her down and beat it out of her ASAP? I know I am kidding on the latter. I look forward to hearing from people.

 

 

P.S - And to Tony I decided to take you're advice and not keep the door closed to any potential dreams, but I had to at least introduce myself to this girl at school : )

[clia]

"I wanted to ask her if she'd like to hang out over the summer but I felt it might've been too soon to ask that or even for a phone number."

 

Too soon? Classes are almost over! You need to get a move on! LOL. There's a huge difference between rushing things and just saying hi in the hallway. You are never going to get to know her unless you start calling her and hanging out with her. You can still take it slow, even if you have her phone number. I really think you'll get nowhere if you don't ask for the digits, though!

 

"I'd like to know what she could've possibly been thinking as far as me not asking at that time (was it good or bad). Any opinions?"

 

She could have been thinking anything. It's hard to say without knowing the dynamics of the conversation. She could've been thinking "God, why did this weirdo introduce himself to me" or she could've been thinking "Please, please, please ask for my number! Please!" Or anywhere in between.

 

"Do girls like a man that produces actions now!?"

 

Yes! Yes! Yes! We don't take you seriously unless you act. If you don't act, we think you aren't interested. You accomplish nothing by fawning over her from afar for the next couple of months. Just ask for the number.

 

"Or would they rather have a guy take it slow and get to know her before he asks?"

 

I don't understand how you plan to accomplish this without getting her number. Corner her in the hallway? At most you'll get a five minute conversation, which isn't really get to know you time. Like I said, you can get the number and still take it slow.

 

"Maybe this is one reason I end up in the "Friend Zone" so often, I admit it, I like to take things at a slower pace."

 

Here is how to avoid the friend zone with this girl:

 

1. Ask her for her phone number.

2. Call her

3. Ask her out on a date

4. Plan a nice date

5. Have fun

6. Repeat steps 2-6 as necessary

 

Do not stumble upon her in the hallway and ask if she wants to grab coffee or whatever. That's friend stuff, not a date. You need to establish that you are romantically interested and act accordingly, which you do by calling and asking her out on dates.

 

As far as getting the number, next time you see her, approach her, tell her you enjoyed talking to her and wondered if you could give her a call sometime. It's very easy!

[velvet]

Have you not learned from the "friend Zone" moves?

 

Next time you see her smile and aske her what her number is.

Tell her by Friday to have a wonderful weekend and than call her up sometime next week. Tell her you have planned a wonderful date and ask if she prefer Friday or Saturday.

 

Its that easy!

[BeReal]

Depending on how subtle you were, she probably knows you are interested from your introduction. See what happens at your next meeting. If you get a positive vibe, then go ahead and ask for her number.