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Old 29th October 2008, 11:33 PM   #1
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Hey everyone,

Okay, I am so hopeless. I don't even know why I am posting this. I have a huge crush and guess I just need to share/vent, whatever.

So I've known this one guy for about two years. He is two years older than me (I'm 19) and I've always thought he was cute. Well recently, it's become more than that. I've fell for him, I think.

So I guess I'm a late bloomer or something, cause while I've found guys cute/attractive before, I've never felt this way about a guy before.

It's the strangest feeling. It makes me happy when he is in the room, I love his voice, his eyes... I only see him usually about once a week, but when I do it is hard to not just stare (don't wanna freak him out!). But it's not just his looks. It's him in general. He is really good with young kids, they always love him, and I love to watch him interact with them. He's a great guy with a wonderful personality. I get butterflies thinking about him.

Yeah, I know, I'm a sap. ;-)

Anyhow, while we know one another (he's single) and are on each other's facebook, we're not real close or anything.

I don't really know what to do with myself now. Like I said, I'm kind of a late bloomer... I guess I should just try and talk to him more...

But anyway, I just felt the need to get some of this expressed. I know this is all kinda normal stuff, but it is new to me; so I feel kinda crazy. Thanks for reading this!

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Old 30th October 2008, 2:18 AM   #2
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tell him you want to make out with him
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Old 30th October 2008, 2:46 AM   #3
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It sounds like you're crushing badly. Nothing to feel terrible or embarrassed about since both of you are single, so he's fair game!

Do talk to him more and flirt, girlfriend, flirt!

Find out who he really is, instead of the person who you've seen. You might end up with a real connection or you just might fall out of crush for him. Good luck!
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Old 30th October 2008, 10:00 AM   #4
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When I was young and single, I often found guys attractive, nice, etc - but like you, when there was real chemistry it was a whole other thing. Since you have known of this man for a while and are just now feeling all warm and fuzzy - its possible that chemistry has somehow developed. And I believe real chemistry takes two. When it's for real and not just a crush, both parties generate it. ....Now what to do? Let nature takes it course but help it along by finding a way to let him know, without a doubt, that you are interested. Men often do not get subtle hints, but they do understand eye contact.
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Old 30th October 2008, 2:53 PM   #5
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It sounds like you're crushing badly. Nothing to feel terrible or embarrassed about since both of you are single, so he's fair game!

Do talk to him more and flirt, girlfriend, flirt!

Find out who he really is, instead of the person who you've seen. You might end up with a real connection or you just might fall out of crush for him. Good luck!
Thanks, yeah, I know it is nothing to be embarrassed about. It just feels weird to finally feel this way. But it's all good.

And I do want to talk to him. I really feel like there's so much I want to know about him. It's just kinda hard when right now I am only seeing him (usually) about once a week and during that time, we are both fairly busy and there's hardly any time for talk.

Maybe I should try to start talking to him a bit on facebook or something in the mean time, while I grasp for better opportunities...

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When I was young and single, I often found guys attractive, nice, etc - but like you, when there was real chemistry it was a whole other thing. Since you have known of this man for a while and are just now feeling all warm and fuzzy - its possible that chemistry has somehow developed. And I believe real chemistry takes two. When it's for real and not just a crush, both parties generate it. ....Now what to do? Let nature takes it course but help it along by finding a way to let him know, without a doubt, that you are interested. Men often do not get subtle hints, but they do understand eye contact.
I do hear a lot about eye contact.

And yeah, I don't really want to sit by the sidelines and watch some other girl make a move instead. Thing is, I'm also really shy. So this is going to be a little difficult for me. That being he case, any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I don't know about chemistry here, but I think you're right about what it is. I agree it takes two people. So I think that is why right now, this is nothing but a terrible crush I have.

Ugh, I don't think I've ever had butterflies as bad before as I do now when he gets close to me or I know he is just right behind me.

Thing is, we know each other and are friends, but not close friends or anything. So I am going to assume that beyond that, he's oblivious to me. So I guess I got some work to do...

Anyway, thanks so much for listening, guys! I needed it!
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Old 30th October 2008, 7:11 PM   #6
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Ok, the shy thing doesnt get you very far. I know, Ive been there done that and wondered why am I still single. I think that you should ask him out, it doesnt have to be a date. Casually be like "so what are your plans for this weekend?" and then say maybe we can got to the movies? Grab some dinner? Or try and bring up fun places that you want to go in casual conversation. If he says that he has never been there and wants to go, say "hey, why dont we go there sometime?"
I know that it is easier said than done to get over being shy, but sometime you just have to push yourself. What do you have to lose? Otherwise you may be missing out on alot of fun!
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