Amy Posted April 9, 2002 Share Posted April 9, 2002 okay. so there's this guy who's in a class of mine. we got to be good friends at first, but like 4 weeks ago, he told me he is insanely in love with me and can't spend his life with anyone but me. he thinks that i am the one for him and he says his heart is mine and always will be. here's the problem. i have a boyfriend whom i've been with for 3 years and am totally happy with him. i just want to be friends with this guy. but he calls me all the time, visits me at work, buys me things, and always wants to be around me or hang out on the weekends. this is getting very annoying. i was charmed and flattered at first, but now he's just down right annoying. i've told him that i'm in love with my boyfriend and that i just want us to be friends, but he says he will wait for me for however long it takes. he doesn't really get the point that i don't plan on breaking up with my boyfriend and that i plan on marrying him. any advice? this guy is like a puppy following me around and being very dependant on me! Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted April 9, 2002 Share Posted April 9, 2002 Don't let him. Stop being nice to him and stop talking to him altogether. Ignore him. If he speaks to you, walk away. You have told him how you felt, you have tried to be nice about it, and he has not responded like an adult. There is no way you can be friends with this guy if he feels this way about you and is acting like this. It may seem mean and cruel, but his behavior is completely inappropriate. If that doesn't work, tell him you are going to go to the police station and file a restraining order against him if he does not cut it out. (Or tell him your boyfriend is going to kick his a**...just kidding.) okay. so there's this guy who's in a class of mine. we got to be good friends at first, but like 4 weeks ago, he told me he is insanely in love with me and can't spend his life with anyone but me. he thinks that i am the one for him and he says his heart is mine and always will be. here's the problem. i have a boyfriend whom i've been with for 3 years and am totally happy with him. i just want to be friends with this guy. but he calls me all the time, visits me at work, buys me things, and always wants to be around me or hang out on the weekends. this is getting very annoying. i was charmed and flattered at first, but now he's just down right annoying. i've told him that i'm in love with my boyfriend and that i just want us to be friends, but he says he will wait for me for however long it takes. he doesn't really get the point that i don't plan on breaking up with my boyfriend and that i plan on marrying him. any advice? this guy is like a puppy following me around and being very dependant on me! Link to post Share on other sites
Amy Posted April 9, 2002 Share Posted April 9, 2002 i'll try anything right now. he really is a nice guy, very sweet, but he just claims to be so in love with me. i know that he would not hurt me or anything like that, he's just so pathetic, like a puppy following me around Don't let him. Stop being nice to him and stop talking to him altogether. Ignore him. If he speaks to you, walk away. You have told him how you felt, you have tried to be nice about it, and he has not responded like an adult. There is no way you can be friends with this guy if he feels this way about you and is acting like this. It may seem mean and cruel, but his behavior is completely inappropriate. If that doesn't work, tell him you are going to go to the police station and file a restraining order against him if he does not cut it out. (Or tell him your boyfriend is going to kick his a**...just kidding.) Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted April 9, 2002 Share Posted April 9, 2002 It's really sad. There are pathetic guys like this in the world...they usually come from very screwed up families...and they just don't know how to relate to women. He'll probably be in his forties or fifties before he figures out what he's doing wrong. I'm sure you're not the first person he's done this to. It may sound awful but short of legal action there will be nothing you can do to stop this guy. You are best off ignoring him. The nastier you are to him the more he will be attracted to you because of his dysfunctional past. It won't even register in his mind that you are being nasty to him. Oh, he may get a little depressed...but his self esteem is so low it won't affect him at all because people have probably been nasty to him all his pathetic life. The other alternative you have is to embarrass the hell out of him by telling everybody on campus about him, give them his name, and tell them just what he's doing. When it gets back to him just how aggravated you are and when he realizes it's all over the school, maybe he'll drop out and go elsewhere. This guy's a real fruitcake. Aren't you lucky! Link to post Share on other sites
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