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Hi!

 

Just a short Qn -

 

is it ok to date a guy im not rlly attracted to? i have fun w/ him, im comfortable, he's nice, etc., but im not physically attracted at all ...

 

am i being dishonest by going to stuff like dinner n movies alone w/ him??

 

Tony: this is not a rebound, im asking b/c in my gang at college, most ppl either dont go out much or go out w/ their dates alone, so i usually end up staying out with this guy - he's single and also likes to stay out late ...

 

Thanks!

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It's extremely dishonest to lead someone on and date them when you know you have no interest. Is he paying for your dinners and movies? Why don't you just tell him you want to be friends and still hang out with him? Why do these have to be construed as "dates"? If you're not attracted, why date him? You don't have to be dating a guy to spend time with him. Having guy friends is perfectly acceptable in this day and age. Are you simply wasting time until someone else comes along? What's going to happen when you do meet someone else who you are attracted to?

 

Hi! Just a short Qn - is it ok to date a guy im not rlly attracted to? i have fun w/ him, im comfortable, he's nice, etc., but im not physically attracted at all ...

 

am i being dishonest by going to stuff like dinner n movies alone w/ him?? Tony: this is not a rebound, im asking b/c in my gang at college, most ppl either dont go out much or go out w/ their dates alone, so i usually end up staying out with this guy - he's single and also likes to stay out late ... Thanks!

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There's no problem going out with someone you aren't physically attracted to as long as you're having fun. However, if the guy is physically attracted to you and is looking for more to the relationship than you are, there will eventually be a face-off and you will hurt the guy.

 

Make sure he knows that you consider him ONLY as a friend and nothing more but that you enjoy hanging out with him. Don't lead him on.

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