How to get in touch with someone

[unknown_soldier]

I want to get a hold of someone I lost contact with about five years ago. We dated for a while, it was just one of those things, but lately I been thinking about her and I googled her trying to find some info, all I found is a blog, but there's no contact info on there.

 

I could create an account there and send a message, but I thought that would be too weird, since for me to have found that would require a good amount of effort.. it's not like I went on myspace and found her using her name, which would seem reasonable. So I pretty much won't be contacting her via that blog..

 

Anyone know a way I can do this w/o making it weird or creepy in anyway? I thought about taking a chance and just admitting to her how I found her.. but everytime I'm about to I just can't do it.

[bluetuesday]

i don't think it's a bad thing that it took effort on your part to track her down. it shows you really wanted to find her, nothing wrong in that unless you are a stalker and/or you split on bad terms. she may be delighted to hear you've been thinking about her and wanted to get in touch again. and if it's obvious from her blog who she is, she clearly doesn't mind people who once knew her finding out what she's up to. she created a webpage the the entire world to see. not the actions of a person who doesn't want to be seen and heard.

 

if you do go down this route, just make sure your entry on her blog is light and jokey. so no 'i searched desperately for you my darling, you're the only woman i ever truly loved'. more 'dayum woman, i turn my back for five years and you work out how to use a computer all by yourself?!' (just write whatever is relevant to you and her in a jokey way, okay?)

 

alternatively you could find out if there is a local newspaper where she lives and write a short letter to it saying you are an old friend who would like to make contact with her again. if you have a photo of the two of you together, send them a copy. local newspapers often print this sort of thing. give your full name and contact details so they know you're legitimate.

 

depending on where she lives, someone who knows her could see it and mention it to her. i suppose this scheme lives and dies on whether she lives in a small town and has an unusual name. if she lives in NYC and has a common surname, it won't work but it's worth a try otherwise. i've seen it work loads of times from my days in local newspapers. good luck!

[oh_what_am_I_doing]

People track people down all the time on myspace. Just ask my ex. He searched for his ex on there while we were together. If memory serves me right, he did it on my computer too. That didn't make me very happy. As long as you're single and her myspace page lists her as single and she currently does not have a restraining order out against you, go for it.

[Topper]

OK you found her myspace page right? You only have to join in order to send her a hello right? And the problem is what?

And don't violate any and all restraining orders.

[unknown_soldier]

oh you guys read me wrong. It's not myspace.. it's just some random blog site.

 

There's no way I would know it was her if I just fount it, cause for one she looks different, two she doesn't list her real name anywhere, and three all her emails and usernames are different from the ones I know. So she'd know I had to do some serious digging to find it..

[Topper]

So? You can still sayI was surfing around and came across this Blog. Then say "Betty is that you It's barny from Barney from Rockville High class of 1022 bc

[konfuzd]

Go for it. If she finds it creepy, she won't respond, or may tell you that you're a crazy stalker and to leave you alone. But hell, since you don't talk to her now, you really have nothing to lose, right?

 

As someone else said, she is broadcasting it on a public network, so there really is nothing wrong with you reading it and responding to it.