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Old 6th August 2017, 7:44 AM   #1
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Talking A long way from LA and Woodstock, with Asperger

This is what I told my wife before we got married.

I have Asperger syndrome and I'm not from California's hollywood Neverland, nor am I from my upper middle class aunt's Woodstock.

And I'm from Philadelphia....and that place s)ucks, And I dont have money and I don't have a PhD in rocket science...
And my dad was a drunk.

Philadelphia's democratic liberal ideology is the kind that wants their food stamps.

It's not the progressive, we hire gay african American people with down syndrome, pass around the joint kind of a place...

And I never had any opportunities.

I had to build a body, because wasn't allowed to build a mind until I had a body.

Now, knowing that...
Just you understand...

If we get married, are you going to be there with me and accept the fact that my love is likely all I will have to offer you ?

Because it's very important that you understand that.

You are at the very most liberal, my stepmom.

Do you accept that level of commitment ?
Are you my mom ?

Are you there for me, as long as I'm not the abusive mister king d!ck and crazy and drunk ?
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Because I need you.

Because if we're going to get married, I cannot afford to have games played....
And I won't get into a relationship that is dangerous for me or the both of us.

That's what I said to her
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Old 6th August 2017, 7:14 PM   #2
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And how's it working out?
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Old 6th August 2017, 8:19 PM   #3
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And how's it working out?
Good so far, because she knows what am able to do for her...
And I am keeping my end of the deal very well.
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Old 7th August 2017, 3:18 PM   #4
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Hi Andy, thank you for posting that.

Does your wife understand the way you are? If so, how does she demonstate that?
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Old 7th August 2017, 3:31 PM   #5
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Hi fellow Aspie!

Help me understand: are you having marital problems?
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Old 7th August 2017, 10:30 PM   #6
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Hi fellow Aspie!

Help me understand: are you having marital problems?
It's going good so far, two years in
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Old 7th August 2017, 10:36 PM   #7
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Hi Andy, thank you for posting that.

Does your wife understand the way you are? If so, how does she demonstate that?
Yes she understands.
She said that obviously she can't live a nightmare disasterous life, of being abused, which I wouldn't do either, but she agrees to take the good with the bad overall and get through life together.
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She's also an RN.
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What is an RN?
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