Originally Posted by dreamingoftigers
Of course your bf is a great guy, or else you wouldn't want to marry him, right?
I don't even think he's trying to be an arse or anything.
He just sounds like a lot of guys for whom THE WEDDING isn't a priority.
He sounds like he loves you, he's committed and he's about family.
But he just doesn't sound very "take charge" and "here's what I have to do" about all of it.
I think if you point-blank said, "look, man, this is getting to the point where it's actually insulting and I'm not sure how much you actually want to be with ME, are you on board?" He's probably snap up a bit.
I just think that if she keeps pressing him 'babe, please please, ask me to marry you', the more unlikely it is that he will.
what man/woman likes to be told how to surprise their significant other?
it ruins everything.
these things happen best when they are least expected.
here's my idea:
if you want to marry him so badly, Rubysmom, why don't YOU propose to HIM?
It's 2017. You are your own person, your own woman, yes?
You want to be married to him.
Get a babysitter for the kids.
Go out for a romantic dinner.
After dinner, take a walk somewhere romantic.
Then propose to him.
Don't ask him to ask you to marry him,
You don't need a ring, because, eff it, it's 2017.
You want him? Get him.
That's what I would do. Thankfully, I don't base the depth of my relationship on marriage. But if you do, you should take matter into your own hands.
This is really the best way to get over your insecurities regarding your romantic future, and to get a straight up answer.