Hi is my first time here, i'm looking for opinions on this problem i'm having with my fiancee we she is contantly testing me to the point to i don't feel comfy in the relationship anymore and i'm not a bad man at all, i mean i have a job (i'm a programmer), i cook i take care of myself i even cook for her never un our 8 years of relationship i never cheated on her i always treat her nice but always everytime i make the tiniest mistake she makes me feel like i'm the worst piece of ****.
For example two weeks ago her parents travel to Peru, so they asked her to take care of the family business and her 2 younger brother who still living with her parents while they where out, she hates cooking and take care of the house so she ask me to help her because i work from home i'm a programmer so basically my laptop is my office i have enoug free time to help her with this so i went to her house for 3 weeks and cook for her and take care of her brothers while she was taking care of her family's business, every day i had a warm meal waiting for her and we take dinner together it was pretty good kidn of seeing how our life as a family could be.
And this is not rare in me everytime we are together i do every kind of things for her, well her parents came back i had to go back to my place we don't live in the same city i live 4 hours from her she is from the city i'm from the fields, even so every weekend i go to her city to stay with her i'm also doing Catechism (even so i'm an atheist) because she and mostly her father wants her to get married by church.
So this weekend i douldt go to visit her because there was a storm in my town and the roads where floaded i really could't even go out of the town to the train station witch is at two hours from my house and again the roads where floaded because have been rainging for 4 days nonstop, so i call her an tell her "honey i can't go this weekend i'm so sorry", and she got angry for that i mean she started to say "i don't care for her that i don't love her and i was like "baby i was in your house cooking for you and helping you two weeks ago, how that doesn't say i love you?" to what she replies "THAT WAS THE LAST WEEK NOT THIS ONE YOU FAILED ME THIS ONE" and i was like "WTF?" she basically tell me later that she acumulate points for everything i do so everytime i do something she doesn't like she take those points away and i was like ¿i'm yout fiancee or one of your students? (she is a teacher).
What do you think i'm really getting tired of her testing me all the time imean doesn't matter all the thing i do for her all the time good thing i do for her are +1 and every time i make a mistake is -10.