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Old 24th September 2016, 7:47 AM   #1
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Question would you marry him

If a guy is always busy and you only see him once a week given you are the one going to see him and if you don't message him he doesn't message you and every time he promises to make more time for you he gets even busier would you marry him if your to get married in 2 months?
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Old 24th September 2016, 10:51 AM   #2
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This doesn't sound like a relationship, and he doesn't sound like boyfriend material, let alone marriage material.

There's no foundation here.

Set higher standards for yourself.

Take care.
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Old 24th September 2016, 10:57 AM   #3
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Let me guess - did you ALSO propose to him and buy your own ring? LOL...does he even KNOW he's supposedly engaged?

If the guy were any LESS invested, he'd be in a coma.
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Absolutely not. There is one thing I would do.....dump his ass.

You are a fool if you believe that having each others passwords = trust.
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I'd break up with him.
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Old 24th September 2016, 11:06 PM   #6
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Anytime somebody is questioning whether or not they should get married bc (insert: issue, questionable behavior, lack of interest, incompatibility, etc) the answer is always NO. If you have doubt beforehand, a good rule of thumb, don't do it. Healthy marriages require effort, and in your case, he isn't putting forth much, if any!

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Old 25th September 2016, 6:09 PM   #7
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No. Mainly because I'm a man... and not gay.

Sorry, that probably isn't much help
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Old 26th September 2016, 12:52 AM   #8
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Originally Posted by Shanisebap View Post
would you marry him
Presupposes a yes or no answer when the real question is why you'd even consider it.

Is this what love and commitment look like to you ???

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"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for." - Epicurus
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That wouldn't work for me. I want a partner. Once a week wouldn't work for me. Have you. Had any conversations about what you both expect married life to look like?
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No, and it sounds like he's not even dating you.

Why would you even consider this for yourself?
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I wouldn't even date him, let alone marry him !!
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Old 26th September 2016, 5:46 AM   #12
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He'll be too busy to show up to the wedding.

More importantly, ask yourself why you want to be with a guy who is making zero effort. If you don't contact him, it would be crickets? I would just move on.
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