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Friends and Lovers Progressing into "Friends with benefits" and beyond: When platonic relationships become more intimate.

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Old 18th October 2017, 3:27 AM   #61
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Also, one thing I found out. The other night, when she was with a couple of my mates and her mates they were talking about the dorm. Apparently she said, "Nick's always in his room every time I come back from work to the dorm." What do you make of that?
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Old 18th October 2017, 3:48 AM   #62
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Text her during the day thanking her for the song that she dedicated to you and ask her if she heard your dedication to her. If she says no, send her a link to the video with lyrics. If she says yes, she'll probably say that it was sweet/cute. If she says it was sweet/cute you have to talk to her during the day and ask her to do things with you. Don't ask her to hang out in her or your room. If you're too shy for that, throw a floor party like Donnivann suggested and invite her to the party.
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Old 18th October 2017, 4:35 AM   #63
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So it's not important that she said she notices im in my room when she gets back?
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Old 18th October 2017, 7:25 AM   #64
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Of course it's important that she notices when you are in your dorm room & even more important that she's talking to other people about you.

How many times do you have to be hit upside the head with the proverbial 2x4?

Your screen name is unfortunately so accurate. Take a real life action already!
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Old 19th October 2017, 3:36 AM   #65
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I created a new dedication survey for my next radio show. I got one from her again, but it obviously wasn't her even though it said her name. The person dedicated the song "Right Thurr by Chingy to me. Reasoning - "For dedicating a song last week to a girl in his dorm lol". What do you think of that?
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Old 19th October 2017, 4:11 AM   #66
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How do you know the original dedication was from her?

Have you spoken/texted her since the time she waved at you at the bar?
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Old 19th October 2017, 4:53 AM   #67
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I created a new dedication survey for my next radio show. I got one from her again, but it obviously wasn't her even though it said her name. The person dedicated the song "Right Thurr by Chingy to me. Reasoning - "For dedicating a song last week to a girl in his dorm lol". What do you think of that?
Well, OP, itís hard to say whatís going on. If the first dedication was from her friends as a jokeÖit could be that she never was interested in you, complained about you to her friends, and her friends made the dedication as a prank on her. If you havenít spoken/texted her since the night she waved at you at the bar, I think that this is the most likely scenario. It explains why her friends made sure that you heard them gossiping about you when they knew you were in the hallway and it explains why she didnít message you when she found out about your dedication to her.

Thatís something I would expect 14 yr olds to do, not 22 yr olds. So, it could be that sheís just as shy as you are, told her friends that she has a crush on you and they encouraged her to make the first dedication. Then when you didnít call or ask her out, her friends started to get fed up with you not taking any action and this whole thing became a joke to them. Now theyíre going to influence her to forget about you because you refuse to ask her out. She'll eventually give up and stop waiting for you especially if her friends are making fun of you.

The only solution I can see is to talk to her or message her. That way youíll get a sense if she wants to talk to you or if sheís just being polite. But since you wonít do thatÖjust really think twice before you make any more song dedications because Iím worried that youíre becoming the joke of the dorm and everyoneís making fun of you behind your back.
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Old 19th October 2017, 5:06 AM   #68
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I know the first dedication was from her, but the second one wasn't.
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Old 19th October 2017, 5:38 AM   #69
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So, what are you going to do now?

Did you read the fake dedication over the radio?
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Old 19th October 2017, 5:55 AM   #70
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This is dreadful stuff.
If you are interested in a girl you have to show interest, all this avoiding and ignoring and cryptic stuff via the radio is ridiculous.

I get the need to make sure she is interested in you first but she does sound interested to me.
Ask her out for a walk or a coffee or to something pretty innocuous during the day and gauge her interest first hand.
You live next door so surely you could just happen to be in the corridor when she gets back at night, happen to be just leaving your room when you hear her voice, happen to be anywhere you think she may be hanging out.
You live close by so ignoring her all night in the local pub is stupid too, perfect opportunity to have a quick chat if nothing else and build some rapport.
If this was a guy you wanted to be friends with, he would probably have given up on you as a dead loss and may even hate you by now, you are not exactly exuding friendliness here...
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Old 19th October 2017, 6:23 AM   #71
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So, what are you going to do now?

Did you read the fake dedication over the radio?
Radio's on Sunday
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Old 19th October 2017, 6:51 AM   #72
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Radio's on Sunday
Don't play it.
It is not from her and I guess if you play it you will get a whole lot more requests from people out to make stupid "jokes" about you AND her.
Stop that joke in its tracks.
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Old 19th October 2017, 7:05 AM   #73
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Donít play the song or read the dedication over the radio.

This all needs to stop. Itís way out of hand. I recommend talking to her, just make small talk and youíll be able to tell if sheís being polite or if she wants to keep the conversation going. I donít understand why you wonít do that because youíve spoken to her before. Just do it again.

If you really, really, really, really donít want to talk to her, you can ask your friends to ask her how she feels about you. But be forewarned, thatís what 7th graders do, not grown men. Any attraction she has will decrease if you do that, but at this point, I think itís worth it so that this whole thing can be finished and done with.
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Old 20th October 2017, 4:20 AM   #74
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My friends which are kind of friends with her are starting to ask me things like "Did you see her out last night?" and "Have you spoken to her lately?" Stuff like that.
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Old 20th October 2017, 4:24 PM   #75
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I'm thinking of getting my friend to tell her that I like her but don't think she's interested and pretend I had no idea he would tell her. Thoughts?
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