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Friends and Lovers Progressing into "Friends with benefits" and beyond: When platonic relationships become more intimate.

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Old 26th September 2017, 3:15 PM   #16
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Agree with MJJean. I would assume this woman got spooked/was nervous, decided against kissing you, and/or that your breath smelled badly or something.
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Old 26th September 2017, 3:30 PM   #17
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Her sister was standing kind of by us, she heard the girl ask me for a hug, didn't see what I did and heard her say the bra comment, she was even like that was weird. Earlier in the night her sister even commented all we do is flirt, I thought it might have been ok but maybe more private for a 1st time
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Old 26th September 2017, 3:34 PM   #18
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Put yourselves out of your misery & ask the poor girl on a proper date already. If you are both under 19 you can phrase it "wanna hang out tomorrow?"
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Old 26th September 2017, 8:18 PM   #19
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Now if a guy told a girl he wasn't wearing any underwear when he went in for a kiss then suddenly ran away he'd be called a creep.

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Old 27th September 2017, 5:41 AM   #20
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Now if a guy told a girl he wasn't wearing any underwear when he went in for a kiss then suddenly ran away he'd be called a creep.

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I'd assume he didn't want to kiss and risk an erection with nothing between him and his metal zipper.
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Old 27th September 2017, 7:34 AM   #21
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I agree she didn't want to kiss and the bra comment was not a come on. But, she did ask for a hug (without a bra, go figure?) so if she was totally disinterested why ask for a hug?

Maybe ask her out again if you're interested, which it seems you must be, otherwise why post about it? If she continues to be weird, then you can move on but it's possible the other experience you had is a one off?
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Old 27th September 2017, 9:26 AM   #22
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I agree she didn't want to kiss and the bra comment was not a come on. But, she did ask for a hug (without a bra, go figure?) so if she was totally disinterested why ask for a hug?
I'm a fairly huggy person. There's hugs and there's hugs. One type does not involve a full body press. I think she meant to offer a briefer hug with less contact, OP went in for a full hug, and that was just too personal for her right then.

I like that she was honest about it. She told him WHY she didn't want more physical contact. A lot of women in that situation would have made up an excuse rather than admit to guy they barely know they aren't wearing a bra.
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Old 27th September 2017, 3:30 PM   #23
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I'm a fairly huggy person. There's hugs and there's hugs. One type does not involve a full body press. I think she meant to offer a briefer hug with less contact, OP went in for a full hug, and that was just too personal for her right then.

I like that she was honest about it. She told him WHY she didn't want more physical contact. A lot of women in that situation would have made up an excuse rather than admit to guy they barely know they aren't wearing a bra.
Maybe so; sounds reasonable.

But, you know what, lol! I'd, um, offer a lot of different excuses, before I'd tell a guy I wasn't very personal with I didn't have a bra on! Not saying that means she's interested, just that...we're all unique, is all I'm pointing out. (And some a little more unique than others, )

For one woman it's, "I don't have a bra on." For another it's taking a few steps back.
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Old 27th September 2017, 4:11 PM   #24
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I left after that happened but was kinda walking backwards talking to her sister, when she was saying that was weird, i seen her lookinh out. Pry tonmake sure ibwas hone haha, we have texted a few times, and she always replies fast, she even wished me a happy birthday the other day, but I have yet to ask to hang out
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Old 30th September 2017, 9:54 AM   #25
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If she did a full-body contact hug and *then* made a comment about not wearing a bra, headed indoors, peeking over her shoulder and inviting you in with a nod....

Yeah, short of that, while actually *mentioning* she's not wearing a bra is a bit peculiar, I don't see anything to indicate what was trying to turn this into any type of come on.
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