guyonline Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 Well its fairly plain and simple, my girlfriend and I are in an open relationship for just over 6 months ... it was a big step in the relationship and it was something we had discussed how we both grew up inside cages and very conservative parents which made this idea seem very attractive. For her, its been going well meeting new people and people who she does do the obvious with and then there is me ... I have had a fairly hard time communicating with woman about it, once they find out I am in an open relationship they tend to break off the communication or just tell me off. I was really wondering what other people do with regards to their open relationship and if guys do you find yourself with this issue? How do you go about it? Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 Honestly, I think it's going to be much harder for a guy to find single women who are okay with dating an "attached" man than single men willing to go out with your girl. I think women in open relationships, swingers etc would be your best bet, but that is a fairly small segment of the population Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 We have heard of this problem before on LS and the common solution offered for men in this situation appears to be escorts I am afraid. Many men already have an OW or a potential OW lined up, before an open relationship is suggested (by them usually), so it is more about legitimising an affair than any thing else. I think many women would rather "date" a married man than a man in an open relationship, as a MM is seen as a "catch" and the idea is to get him to leave his wife, as opposed to a man in an open relationship who is seen as someone who is never going to be anything other than casual and there are plenty completely single men with no baggage whatsoever out there offering casual. Also many married men say they are in an open relationship, but it turns out "the wife" must never find out... we all know what that means, so many women just do not want to get involved. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ARAMCOMAN Posted May 31, 2017 Share Posted May 31, 2017 If you took an avg woman and a guy model and put them on corners across from each other with a sign saying come & get it free sex. There would be a 3 block line up at the woman's corner & the guy would have no one. So an escort would be the way to go if you want to get your rocks off with a female other than your GF. Just interested who's idea was it first to have an open relationship. Generally women get more attached to their FB where guys are less committed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author guyonline Posted June 1, 2017 Author Share Posted June 1, 2017 It was her idea to open up the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 It was her idea to open up the relationship. I know you agreed, but it's OK to change your mind about it. Something along the lines of "I thought I would be OK with it, but I'm really struggling and I just can't be in an open relationship" would work. She may not be OK with a closed relationship. And if this is the case, you know you need to end it. Sorry I can't come up with something more positive. But please, be true to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted June 1, 2017 Share Posted June 1, 2017 It was her idea to open up the relationship. I'm sorry, but I'm going to tell you some home truths. She likely suggested it, because she has little fear that you'll get up to much. And you seem extremely naive to the workings of things. This seems to be a surprise to you that you'll have to hustle more than she. No woman has suggested that I open a relationship. Just hasn't happened. Reason being that they know I can go and get others. Seriously doesn't happen. That's because women generally are smarter than men. They fear the emotional bonding which can take place, and the loss of security for themselves. She doesn't fear the loss of security, because she knows you better than you know yourself. She likely knows you'd struggle, and that she would come off well in the circumstance. You made a big mistake. Here's the dilemma in a nutshell. A guy that will actually profit from such an arrangement likely wouldn't be allowed it. And the guy that wouldn't profit would be more likely to be encouraged into it. Exceptions exist where you get two very mature, very secure, sufficiently experienced people making something like this work. But, very often that just doesn't seem to be the case. Link to post Share on other sites
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