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Hi all, I have been going to get a massage once a week for the past 3 months with the same girl , this is not an ordinary massage but paying extra she gives a nude bodyslide mutual touching and happy ending , after a month or so i grew feelings and become attracted to her, some times before commencing the massage she will come lay next to me and have little hug and stroke of each others arms etc. a few times i ended up giving her a light back rub with small conversation, a few times during a session she let me go down on her for oral sex which she quite enjoyed, we have this mutual respect for each others body pleasures, (not sure if that makes sense?) at the end of each session we would hug and have a small kiss on cheek , she is a lovely girl with a good heart. These extra services are not advertised i asked her on first visit.

 

Yesterday we exchanged facebook profiles as im not going to see her for 2 to 3 months due to an operation im having , i was taken back and surprised to see she is married and felt empty with my heart little broken.

 

At first i know i was sexually attracted to her but as my feelings have grown strong for her i know im most attracted to her personality

 

I just want to know if she has developed some kind of feelings towards me or am i reading her wrong?? it has been killing me and feeling sad but a stupid at the same time for letting myself be this way.

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It would be fair to characterize her employment as sex work, even if it doesn't involve intercourse. You are one of many clients. From what you posted, she enjoys your time together, but remember that you are paying her or the parlor owner. It's still a transaction. You may be her favorite client, but you're still a client, one of many. She may do things with you that she wouldn't with some others, but that doesn't make you all that special in the grand scheme of things.

 

Feeling the way you do is natural. Most guys who spend more than five minutes per encounter with a woman in this way are seeking a "girlfriend experience." Yes, that's the actual term for it, and it's extremely common.

 

As to your attraction to her, it's easy for her to be your dream date an hour at a time. You don't see her at her worst, when she's in a bad mood, or have any idea what she's like outside work. She gets paid to be nice to you, like a bartender serving you drinks who smiles and wears a low-cut blouse.

 

My recommendation is to enjoy your crush and not push it. Just be glad you don't have to earn your money that way, even if some of the clients are as nice as you are. You enjoy her service, so tip her well.

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She's a sex worker & you are a customer. She wants a bigger tip. She doesn't want to date you. Even if she did date you, are you going to be able to handle the idea that your GF is giving these nude massages & happy endings to other men for money?

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She's a prostitute, not a masseuse. You're PAYING her to act like she is into you. She is married or telling you she is married specifically so you do not try to date her. She will do anything for money and she will not do anything for free.

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Definitely sounds like something you wouldn't do with every patient. It seems more intimate to me. She accepted your Facebook request but she knew you would see she's married. Maybe because she is into you but she also has responsibilities at home and want you to know that she's not totally available right now but Maybe she developed feelings and now she is thinking she will see if it turns into something.

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I don't think marlo13 should continue carrying on with this "married" sex worker. I do feel bad for her husband though.

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She's a prostitute, not a masseuse. You're PAYING her to act like she is into you. She is married or telling you she is married specifically so you do not try to date her. She will do anything for money and she will not do anything for free.

 

Yep yep yep. Always amazed how many guys think hookers, strippers and escorts actually want to date them.

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Yep yep yep. Always amazed how many guys think hookers, strippers and escorts actually want to date them.

 

Or actually like them and that they really believe they ENJOY doing them.

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Definitely sounds like something you wouldn't do with every patient. It seems more intimate to me. She accepted your Facebook request but she knew you would see she's married. Maybe because she is into you but she also has responsibilities at home and want you to know that she's not totally available right now but Maybe she developed feelings and now she is thinking she will see if it turns into something.

 

 

She did seem a little panicked when i said this is my last time ill be here for a while and went on to say she will miss me and telling me me you can text me when you want. which implies to me she is not just money hungry

she did say once "its good match' after exchanging our ages.

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She's a sex worker & you are a customer. She wants a bigger tip. She doesn't want to date you. Even if she did date you, are you going to be able to handle the idea that your GF is giving these nude massages & happy endings to other men for money?

 

She charges same rate each time except if i stay longer, so shes not after a bigger tip

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She charges same rate each time except if i stay longer, so shes not after a bigger tip

 

 

Even though she hasn't increased her rate per services or charge you more for the part of the next hour, I suspect she's still overly friendly to you because she wants you to voluntarily give her extra money.

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She did seem a little panicked when i said this is my last time ill be here for a while and went on to say she will miss me and telling me me you can text me when you want. which implies to me she is not just money hungry

she did say once "its good match' after exchanging our ages.

 

She will miss your money and told you can you text anytime you want because she wants you to make another appointment.

 

Let's say you're right and she's about to become your girlfriend. How are you going to handle her 1) being married and 2) having sex with strange guys for money?

 

You need to stop thinking with your you know what.

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She will miss your money and told you can you text anytime you want because she wants you to make another appointment.

 

Let's say you're right and she's about to become your girlfriend. How are you going to handle her 1) being married and 2) having sex with strange guys for money?

 

You need to stop thinking with your you know what.

 

shes not having sex with strange guys, this is no brothel its a legit massage shop , seems some of you have missed the point

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Her actions and the things she said to you make me believe she is interested in you and like you more than her other clients. Doesn't seem like she's after you for money. And maybe the Facebook thing was a way to get closer to you.

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shes not having sex with strange guys, this is no brothel its a legit massage shop , seems some of you have missed the point

 

 

It is not a legit massage shop. If it was, she would be fully clothed & you would not be getting happy endings. Wake up! Get yourself tested for STDs.

 

If you still think it's legit, ask your local police department whether they agree. While you are there, ask to see this woman's rap sheet; I promise there will be at least one bust for solicitation on there.

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It is not a legit massage shop. If it was, she would be fully clothed & you would not be getting happy endings. Wake up! Get yourself tested for STDs.

 

If you still think it's legit, ask your local police department whether they agree. While you are there, ask to see this woman's rap sheet; I promise there will be at least one bust for solicitation on there.

 

i never posted in this thread to discuss wether or not its a legit massage shop or not.

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Maybe you are one of her "special" patients. Yeah...you both could really be getting into each and the chemistry could be something else. But it's not real life, really. Dude. She is married. And she over stepped a professional boundary with you, which could possibly get her in some trouble if she were to do that with a patient and they accused her of sexually molesting them. She is playing with fire....She has likely done this with other attractive patients, male or female. who knows. She could be a player and a sex addict, both. Ask yourself what you really want from her, dude.

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Her actions and the things she said to you make me believe she is interested in you and like you more than her other clients. Doesn't seem like she's after you for money. And maybe the Facebook thing was a way to get closer to you.

 

She's been steadily TAKING his money!!

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shes not having sex with strange guys, this is no brothel its a legit massage shop , seems some of you have missed the point

 

OMG, this is a house of prostitution and she is a prostitute. Real massage doesn't do handies or anything else. Any genital contact and it's prostitution! Wake up.

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Definitely sounds like something you wouldn't do with every patient. It seems more intimate to me. She accepted your Facebook request but she knew you would see she's married. Maybe because she is into you but she also has responsibilities at home and want you to know that she's not totally available right now but Maybe she developed feelings and now she is thinking she will see if it turns into something.

 

Do you think i should just tell her i have these feelings or would that be rude?

i feel i need to get it off my chest

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Do you just not have any morals? She's married. That alone should tell you NO, you don't go making confessions or continue being intimate with her. And she's a prostitute who charges you to get sexual favors. What part of this situation sounds at all hopeful to you? Let's say she left her husband to shack up with you. Now you have a cheating prostitute who you know will cheat and know has sex for money with strangers.

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a lot of people think that sex workers are cold or cant be good people at heart...and its not true.....theres an internal struggle with many sex workers for the work that they do...theres a lot of sympathy often for clients........its actually really hard to separate professionalism in work and do that when you are naked sliding over a guys body....have you ever wondered why actors and actresses often end up marrying each other after dpoing movies together......theres an physical intimacy that is there and its real its an act that goes real life........BUT

with straight up sex work or masseuse happy endings....

 

....you dont date clients, you dont kiss clients, you dont let them do oral on you ...many hookers have bfs and some hookers are married.....and all hookers however walled up they are have heart..THE PRETTY WOMAN CONCLUSION NEVER IS REAL LIFE.....

 

...as another poster said not all clientele of hookers are nice and whEther clients are nice or not they still get what they want which is sex..... i went from stripping and escorting work into masseuse work thought i was gettign out of the prostitution scene......and it wasnt any different...just no penetration... i never let a client kiss me and when a couple of clients insisted on doing oral on me against my will to the point of me fighting them.....there has to be some things kept for true intimacy...and i fought for those things to be not shared with guys who gave me money....thats how i felt...

 

its quite easy to develop feelings for regulars....but they are stemming more sympathetic and empathetic that visceral.......its easy to tell when regular customers have developed feelings......because they begin to do things like you have or want to do things that you have done which is provide pleasure......and a hooker with heart would honestly let you go and say she couldnt see you anymore if she truly cared for you.....adding you on facebook was wrong........letting you go down on her was wrong.......maybe she added you on facebook so you could see she was married....her way of dampening your ardor

 

this pro "masseuse" with heart isnt for you....you need to stop seeing her.....because its your heart that is going to be broken...you arent stupid....developing feelings for someoen you are physically intimate with is natural......what makes it unnatural...is the cash you give her......you cannot be her client.......sex is her business.......and she has blurred the lines of that constraint by allowing you to perform oral on her...that should be for her husband....i wish you well..deb........

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a lot of people think that sex workers are cold or cant be good people at heart...and its not true.....theres an internal struggle with many sex workers for the work that they do...theres a lot of sympathy often for clients........its actually really hard to separate professionalism in work and do that when you are naked sliding over a guys body....have you ever wondered why actors and actresses often end up marrying each other after dpoing movies together......theres an physical intimacy that is there and its real its an act that goes real life........BUT

with straight up sex work or masseuse happy endings....

 

....you dont date clients, you dont kiss clients, you dont let them do oral on you ...many hookers have bfs and some hookers are married.....and all hookers however walled up they are have heart..THE PRETTY WOMAN CONCLUSION NEVER IS REAL LIFE.....

 

...as another poster said not all clientele of hookers are nice and whEther clients are nice or not they still get what they want which is sex..... i went from stripping and escorting work into masseuse work thought i was gettign out of the prostitution scene......and it wasnt any different...just no penetration... i never let a client kiss me and when a couple of clients insisted on doing oral on me against my will to the point of me fighting them.....there has to be some things kept for true intimacy...and i fought for those things to be not shared with guys who gave me money....thats how i felt...

 

its quite easy to develop feelings for regulars....but they are stemming more sympathetic and empathetic that visceral.......its easy to tell when regular customers have developed feelings......because they begin to do things like you have or want to do things that you have done which is provide pleasure......and a hooker with heart would honestly let you go and say she couldnt see you anymore if she truly cared for you.....adding you on facebook was wrong........letting you go down on her was wrong.......maybe she added you on facebook so you could see she was married....her way of dampening your ardor

 

this pro "masseuse" with heart isnt for you....you need to stop seeing her.....because its your heart that is going to be broken...you arent stupid....developing feelings for someoen you are physically intimate with is natural......what makes it unnatural...is the cash you give her......you cannot be her client.......sex is her business.......and she has blurred the lines of that constraint by allowing you to perform oral on her...that should be for her husband....i wish you well..deb........

 

Thanks for your honest constructive reply, she is not a hooker by the way

 

What do you mean all hookers WALLED up they have a heart>???

 

They are stemming more sympathetic and empethitic vesceral????

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she is not a hooker by the way

 

Marlo, she's either a professional masseur who has blown every rule about keeping boundaries with patients or she's a sex worker (AKA hooker)

 

Is she qualified in any type of massage? Is she a member of a massage association? (If she is, she will have signs on her wall). If she doesn't tick these boxes, she's a sex worker.

 

Also, if the room has a romantic feel (as opposed to being professional and clinical) or she doesn't use a regular skinny massage table, she's even more-so a sex worker.

 

That said, I don't feel sorry for her husband. I'm sure he knows she's a sex worker and accepts it.

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Thanks for your honest constructive reply, she is not a hooker by the way

 

What do you mean all hookers WALLED up they have a heart>???

 

They are stemming more sympathetic and empethitic vesceral????

 

happy endings are sex works.......sex workers are known as hookers.....prostitutes...i have done both ...masseuse work and hooking.....prostitution...does she have condoms in the room and are they in a big box....in a drawer maybe.....honestly did she make you wear a dental dam if she did not...thats quite bad of her.....

 

.......full nudity body slides..even partial nudity...is brothel worthy....they feel the same in a brothel as they do in a massage parlor....which by the way is another name for a brothel.....there is no distinction.....when sex acts are performed......

 

 

visceral is deep feeling .....has emotional and physical depth so it hits your gut put simply.....or viscera of abdominal origin......feelings that go deep in the body....

 

 

i often felt empathy and sympathy as a hooker....alot..empathy and sympathy originate from heart emotions....empathy and sympathy are what you have when you feel someones pain or you pity them....thats why they put me with newbies to escorts...virgins and inexperienced men or damaged troubled men....which were often the type of men who kept coming back to see me became my regulars.......i also got non english speaking men.....because i had that empathy .....i have a feeling your sex worker/masseuse.....gave you hr facebook for a reason......and im feeling she wanted you to know she was married......her husband by this thought...knows what she does.....the feelings you have are not reciprocated......she lets you go down on her........but kisses you on the cheek...she does have a barrier......with sex ...its work to her......even oral on her is probably work......which is something i never allowed.....

 

escort girls have barriers they should not cross...walled up ...theres intimacy...and then theres sympathy ...and theres also the acting.....you are walled in the sympathy and or act........she is probably a nice person...not saying she isnt...she has blurred the lines...and that si goign to be trouble if she keeps it up......but...her job is her job and you wontcross over into anything more than a client.....who pays...im sorry....you are walled out...you dont knwo who she really is..you know the working woman...you dont know her heart,however much you think you do ...you do not...........i wish you well....deb

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