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Hello,

 

I am 23 and recently (2 months) out of my second LTR. They lasted 4 and 3 years, respectively. Both relationships kind of fell into my lap and virtually no courtship was required. The two girls are the only girls I have slept or done anything with. Consequently I am basically new to dating, flirting courtship, etc. and quite unaccustomed to "being single". I could use some help reading into the interactions I've had with my neighbor, both to learn about women and because I think I am warming to the idea of getting with her, should that opportunity present (though she might not be interested in that and that's one of the things I'm wondering about)

 

First interaction was when I encountered her and her roommate on the way out the door. They asked when I moved in and we spoke briefly. I was mildly reticent/withdrawn (not over LTR#2 and having a bad day) and they took note of this. We met again downstairs at the door, me having taken the "longer way", using a different set of stairs (out of habit rather than shyness). On seeing me, her roommate said "Decided to take the long way?" and I laughed before going out the door. Fast forward to a few nights later and she and some friends knock on my door looking to buy buds off me (they know I toke b/c it smells in the hall sometimes). I don't answer though because I had just gotten out of the shower, didn't have any and they seemed mildly drunk/raucous and I didn't want to deal with them. 10 minutes later she puts a note under my door leaving her number and asking if I can see them buds; I read it and decide to just text her tomorrow and go to bed, which I am about to do....when she barges in. She is friendly but aggressive, wanting to know if I got her note. I tell her I'm out, after which she starts to try to walk past me to "look around" (not to see if I have weed, just in general), which I don't allow in what I would characterize as a half polite, half firm manner. She backs off and we talk a little, but then she starts trying to get past me again and again I prevent her from doing so. She then starts asking me questions again and I basically say "Look, I'm a bit uncomfortable right now..." and on hearing this her roommate, who was outside the door the whole time, enters and escorts her out, apologizing.

 

I text her the next day mentioning that she can buy some of the buds I picked up if she wants and that we should smoke together sometime. Day later she texts me back apologizing for her drunken behavior and says smoking sometime sounds good. Over the next week or so, leading up to last night, we text sporadically, usually with me taking longer to respond, but also with her sometimes being the one to stop the conversation by not replying to the last text. Then last night and out of nowhere, she just texts me puppy pictures of a husky. I have reproduced the conversation below.

 

Her(6:29): (2 Husky Puppy Pics)

 

Me(7:51) Huskies are one of the best breeds of dog imo

 

Her(7:51) I drove allllll the way to (name of city) to meet him

 

Me(8:15) Just to meet him or are you thinking about getting a dog

 

Her(8:18) Just to meet him. He was my brother's christmas present and he was able to pick him up yesterday!

 

Me(8:30) That's really cool how old is he

 

Her(8:35) 2 months today

 

Me(9:07): Cute little guy what'd you guys do with him

 

Her(9:10): (3 Pictures - one of the puppy, two of her and the puppy. One of the latter also has half of her face/upper half in it in the top right corner, and she is "gazing" at the camera)

 

Text under pics: "Lol just chilled. Smoked with my brother and watched him play his video game. Puppy and I fell asleep"

 

Me(10:53): Haha he's trying to drink beer (by way of illusion, the puppy did in fact appear to be trying to sip beer in one of the pics)

 

 

And that's it. Any thoughts, musings, what have you, would be appreciated. Tbh I am in the dark here. I had a highly religious background that I broke with around the age I got in the first LTR, so I have virtually nothing in the way of a sexual/romantic "existence" outside of LTR's.

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It sounds to me like you already quasi asked her out and she gave you a quasi sure.

 

I would just ask her for a specific date and then you would know for sure. If she says yes or I can't that day but could on Monday that is a sign she actually wants to. If she says no but offers some generic sometime later then she is most likely just flirting and blowing you off.

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