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Not exactly sure where to post this but this spot seemed to fit the most.

 

 

I have posted a week ago I think about this girl that lives directly across from in apartment complex.

 

 

She did not treat me well and I let her treat me poorly for a year. I ended the friendship/friendship plus relationship. I haven't talk with her for a week or more.

 

 

The last I talked with her I had told her that she was a liar, self centered, and a manipulator. I pointed out why I felt this way and asked her to leave me alone. She did for a week and a half or so.

 

 

I have had no real time to fix my problems, and am definitely not ready for her to talk with me. I fear I will fall into same sympathy trap.

 

 

Just one hour ago I was sitting on my porch having a smoke(I live on the first floor and so does she) She comes walking out of her place and out of the blue she starts talking to me. I opened my big mouth and talked back. Dammit why did I have to talk back. it has been the recent routine that she would ignore me and I her.

 

 

I am not ready for this. I am kindof panicking! Worried about falling into the same mess that I just got out of!

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DrReplyInRhymes

Hold fast, be calm, and stick to your guns with the situation you made,

Friendly chitchat doesn't mean you have to not let still let the friendship fade,

A courteous greeting here and there, nothing wrong with being polite,

Unless, of course, that's really want you want...then I suppose it's alright.

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Thank you both for your replies! Things happened a little sooner then expected. this is what happened. She text me asking if I wanted to come over for a smoke. I said "um yes". We had a smoke on her porch. She told me about her current issues. Then she asked me if we are still friends. I told her that I wasn't sure how to answer that question. I left to go pick up my Chinese food. Then figured out how to answer the question. I told her that I would really like to say yes we are still friends, but I would eventually want more out of the relationship. I told her that it wouldn't be good for either of us. I said I can offer being a buddy if she needed some one who will listen to her. that I can do that. She said no I am good. then said I respect that. sorry I cannot start a new paragraph. there is some kind of glitch. Did I do and say the right thing? did I let myself be a doormat again?

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So you have a crush on her but it's not reciprocated?

 

Not really! I fell in love with her march of last year. for a short period she led me to believe she may feel the same way about me. I was wrong, and allowed myself to be used and manipulated by her until about 2 weeks ago. She decided she wanted to be best friends plus, about june of last year.

 

 

This relationship was my fault. there were signs and I chose to ignore them. I attempted to end friendship about a week and a half ago. we had not talked for that amount of time. Until today! she had broken up with her boyfriend a couple of days ago. I can only assume she wanted to use me again.

 

 

I knew that I if I said yes to friendship I would get emotionally attached again and didn't want that to happen, because like you said she doesn't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with me.

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