[Naish]

So, Hi everyone, here is a short story of my situation.

I was a cool, self-confident, funny and interesting guy. Met a girl and she felt in love with me. Our relationship got better and better, we were really into each other. Then, because of my personal problems, I transformed into a complete wuss; not cool, needy, predictable, boring and very very nice. Naturally she lost her feelings against me, but i didn't know the reason on those days.

Anyway, last year, we nearly broke up but decided to try. 2 months later she went to a foreign country for 5 months. She's never cheated on me, i know it for sure, but as soon as she returned (2 hours later), she decided to break up with me. So, she already made her decision long ago and didn't tell me. As a wuss guy, i begged, cried, tried to influence her decision. Of course, it didn't do any good. I had my closure, she told me that she doesn't love me anymore. Well, 2 weeks later after the break up i started NC. During NC, i improved my inner self, become much more self-confident guy, got a promotion, lost weight, found a new girlfriend (not serious dough), bought new clothes etc..

Then, after 7 weeks of NC i saw her in a concert. I knew that she knows about my girlfriend and also I know that she's single. Well, I definetly can say that I saw contrition and sadness in her eyes. I don't why, maybe just jealousy. She tried to avoid me but I felt like she regrets her decision and now she's in pain. I still love her, but can't really decide what to do. I'm personally against breaking NC until she does but also I fear of losing her forever. She's a little proud and respectful, she may never initiate contact because of my 'so called' new gf. Any advice please?

[My_Other_I]

You should spare your 'so called' new gf (wow, that statement of yours makes me mad. Did you like her before you ran into your ex and now she is not good enough anymore?) your drama. Obviously you are still in love with your ex. Set her free and than see what happens with your ex.

[Naish]

Originally Posted by My_Other_I

You should spare your 'so called' new gf (wow, that statement of yours makes me mad. Did you like her before you ran into your ex and now she is not good enough anymore?) your drama. Obviously you are still in love with your ex. Set her free and than see what happens with your ex.

Well, my new gf was in the same situation as me. His bf broke up with her, so it's a mutual 'to make things easier' kind of relationship. So, I can say we both are using each other. I don't think she'll get upset if I brake up with her for my ex. And do you think it's a right decision to leave my current gf for my ex? Doesn't this action will give all the power to her again?