[countryheart]

hey what's up? i'm writing because i really need help in dealing with my fiance breaking our engagement and relationship because of his parents. we first started dating officially last december although we had been inseperatable since late september. we had the best time, everyday. at the end of february, he proposed; everyone was happy, especially our parents. his parents were so thrilled that i would be part of the family, his mom and i hung out and everything seemed really good. this past may i made the difficult choice to leave my job, which my fiance totally supported.

we moved to his parents to get back on our feet financially. my fiance didnt like his job either and i think his parents interpreted his unhappiness with me. one night his dad bitched me out, saying i was causing so much heartache to my fiance. i was speechless. he also said he would have no problem kicking me out. everything was a little tense for awhle. then in july we found out i was pregnant. his parents were very adament of my getting an abortion (which i was totally against) but i did (which was weird cuz his mom really wanted us to have kids!). two weeks later they kicked me out. they thought i had gotten fired from my new job (which i didnt) and they thought we both experienced a lot of hurt in the relationship and that we should move on. because my fiance is an only child he is totally whipped by his parents, he says he stuck up for me, but if he really loved me he wouldn't have broken up with me because of his parents.

i just dont get it. he doesn't call and hardly emails me and we have so many things to take care of (bills, past rent, etc). we met up like two weeks ago just to talk and he said he wanted to get back together and that he was willing to try but wasn't sure what to do, how to go about doing it. he said he needed time for himself and that he didnt want to hurt me or give me false hope. i can't get over this because i still love him and i know that if we didnt move to his parents' we would still be together. HELP ME!!!!!!!!

[norajane]

Your bf is a BIG LOSER if he lets his parents dictate his love life and the rest of his life. If he doesn't know what he needs to do (stand up for himself, get his act together and move out of their place, tell them to piss off and stay out of his relationship, etc.), then there is nothing you can do.

I don't know why you're even considering getting back together with him. Do you really think that he will stop letting his parents run his life in the future?