[tryingtodeal]

I am married to the man I love more than life iteself. I have been to hell and back with him and my love never withered. But a year ago before we were married, he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend who was living with him and his mom at the time with their daughter. I was pregnant with our child at the time and after she moved in he stopped seeing me. He wouldnt talk to me or anything, I suspected something, especially after one night when i called him to see if he would come see me the his ex said "Hi Crystal" in a way that made my stomach clench. That night after i got off the phone I walked up to his place and look in his sliding door window and he wasn't on the couch where he said he would be sleeping and all the bedroom doors where closed, i knew he was sleeping with her at that moment, I was so hurt over it I asked him about it and he denied it and would get really defensive. Finally about two months ago he admited to me that he had cheated on me with her, he told me everything that happened and how, but he keeps changing his story. The first time he admited it to me I felt my heart ripped from my chest, pain so intense there was and still are no words to describe it. I still feel to the pain as bad as i did the first time he admited it to me, I dont know what to do, I feel like hurting myself alot, and sometimes im okay and then he says something or something comes up around us that reminds me and im right back in that pain again. I want to hurt her i want to hurt him, i want to hurt myself. He wont listen to how I feel, i mean really listen, he wont keep his story straight and he wont talk about it with me. What should I do. Please dont critisize me or anything but I need some advice. thank you.

[UnknowingOW]

First and foremost. Do NOT hurt yourself. He is not worth it. And you have a child with him...do not hurt yourself for the sake of your child.

Secondly, no one will critize you.

I'm a bit confused. Are you still living together? When did all this happen?

[Roo]

you have a child to think of please please think of your child and do not harm yourself. I know you feel that you love him etc. But if he would do this to you especially while you are pregnant he is NOT your KNIGHT in shinig armour and you deserve better please please get yourself some help. Call your local womens crisis shelter etc. (((HUGS)))

[jonesgirly]

You are 'MOM' to someone now. YOU need to be MOM.

Obviously, this guy has very little respect to the women in his life. He has children by two women already? Hello! Stop giving him some sort of god-like status. He doesn't deserve it.

Your concern is yourself and your child. The love a parent has for their child trumps all other, and especially in the case of a wayward 'other parent'.

He is obviously hell-bent on doing what he chooses, and its time you live your life the way YOU choose.

Do not become someone without integrity, and live your life as an example to your child. DO NOT become a doormat to this guy, and do NOT beg him to be a "part" of your lives. Because thats ALL he will be - a "part" of . NOT the whole thing, just a PART of.

ACT as though you deserve better, and you shall receive it.