[spirit00]

i'm 21 old girl and i think my friend that i've known since 4 years is attracted to me and i feel there's some chemistry between us that i can't understand....i'm the kind of person that's very reserved, i mean i don't hug, kiss or touch my friends when talking and neither of my friends do that except this friend, she always tries to touch me and hold my hand when we are walking and she kissed me many times on my cheeks and i once slept over by her and she wanted me to sleep beside her but nothing happened. We once went clubbing and the music was so loud and she was always whispering sth in my ears and really gets close to me in a way that i felt weird and she held my hand many times there. Besides, she always tells me that people will think we are lesbians!!? I can't deny that i don't like her touching me because as i said before i'm not used to that touchy-feely thing and it was sth new for me to feel. I don't think i'm lesbian but the way she acts with me made me feel sth for her, and i don't think she is lesbian either because she likes guys and gets attracted to them but she always tells me that she never felt any guy attracted to her....
I sometimes tell myself that she likes me and that's her way of expressing her love to me but i had many friends before that liked me and they expressed it in other ways.
i don't know what's going on and what's that chemistry between same-sex friends called!!!

[j.carsey]

If you like it when she touches you, you can tell her that. There's no harm in this, you don't have to worry about labels. Nobody cares if you're lesbians or not. Just forget about that stuff.

Focus on what is fun and what makes you happy.

If you have fun around her, if you are her or not cheating on anyone else, then there is no harm in exploring anything you want to explore. Or if I am reading this wrong and you are uncomfortable with her slightly flirty closeness, then you could tell her to please stop it's making you uncomfortable.

But if you're comfortable with it, or even thrilled, then maybe you could even encourage her and see where it goes.