[Confuzzled85]

Okey, now Im not doubting thats its going to be hard for me being the dumpee, but we have a massive problem in that we work together & have the same group of friends. Now I know its probably going to take longer for me to heal this way, but I really dont see any way around it, Im feeling okey about seeing him as a friend when we all go out, I guess what I am worried about is the fact he might meet someone else, and the constant thinking about him with someone else is painful. Anyway just wanted any thoughts on this.... thank you

[x kimber x]

I've had to go through this before. The last boyfriend I broke up with was initially a friend, so we had the same group of friends and it became difficult. Luckily for me I am at uni, so there were times when I was away from it all, and this helped. It will be painful if he finds someone else but you will get through it. Is there anyway that you can 'avoid' seeing him until you're feeling better about the whole thing? I'm great friends with my ex now, but this is only due to not seeing him much after the break-up, so avoiding the hurt.

[Confuzzled85]

Thank you for your reply, yeah at present I think I must just cross that bridge when I come to it. Theres not much chance really to be honest, we going on holiday with mates in a couple of weeks so thats going to make it very awkward, and then again at the beginning of september. I plan to take a month out in between and not see him atall to help myself.
If you dont mind me asking how long did it take you guys to be able to be great friends? and did you ever have any lapses like sleeping together again or anything?

[x kimber x]

Originally Posted by Confuzzled85

Thank you for your reply, yeah at present I think I must just cross that bridge when I come to it. Theres not much chance really to be honest, we going on holiday with mates in a couple of weeks so thats going to make it very awkward, and then again at the beginning of september. I plan to take a month out in between and not see him atall to help myself.
If you dont mind me asking how long did it take you guys to be able to be great friends? and did you ever have any lapses like sleeping together again or anything?

Had a couple of lapses I have to admit! Took a couple of months really, but it's about a year and a half since we split now, and we're still sometimes a little awkward around each other.

[Mollyanna]

I have tried being friends with an ex twice. One went well, the other didn't.

Guy A dumped me after only a month and a half but we stayed friends and remained friends because I found someone else to date BEFORE he did.

Guy B dumped me after 3 months, we remained friends, kept sleeping together, got back together and broke up like 4 times in a year and a half. sleeping together and being friends throughout all of it. It ended in disaster when he started sleeping with my worst enemy. We despise one another now. And caused a long of grief and anguish between our mutual friends - including coincidentally - Guy A.