I have posted on here several times. My husband is an A*** Hole.
Today I sent him a text message asking him to call his attorneys office for his workers comp case.
Somehow one of his text messages got merged with mine. He called me cursing and yelling asking me who the message was meant for. I dont know anything about it. We had went on vacation last week and it was something about that and that we wouldnt be home until late, which was merged with the message I sent him.
I rechecked my text I sent him and what he said he recieved is not on the text I sent him so I resent him the message telling him this was the original message I sent.
He called me and said I am a cheater and a lier. What do I do? He said he wants to talk about this when I get home from work.
I cant handle this anymore. I am so hurt. I didnt do anything wrong and he just wont believe me. What he sees is what he bleives and he does no wrong.
I said to him maybe you mixed one of your other messages up with mine somehow. He said "are you calling me stupid?.
Any advise on how I should handle this when I get home? He doesnt belive anything I say to him.
First, I am very sorry that your husband is an A**-hole. I have one like that myself.
Can't you just go on your phone to your sent messages and show him the message you sent? I mean you cant really fake that!
Hopefully, he calms down before he gets home. That really stinks that he said that and know you are going to worry all this time about how he will act.
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I forwarded him the message I sent him (resent it). He seen that it didnt have what he said.
He sent me the first message he got showing what he received.
It was a message I sent him about two weeks ago that I no longer had on my phone. I told him that. I told him that he probably merged it somehow from his phone.
His response was thats stupid. How the F***K could that happen. Like I said he never believes me. I am sure he will want an explanation when he gets home and I dont have one to give because I told him the truth.
I just feel like crying. I feel like never going back home. If it wasnt for my kids I wouldnt. I have been trying to save the money to get out but still will need about three more months to get everything together.
I meant when he gets home can't you just hand him the phone and he can see what you sent him. Maybe he thinks the forwarded one was a "fake". Try calling your phone company and as if this could indeed happen-I've seen stranger things take place! Can a friend of relative "coincidentally" stop by shortly before he is due home to take the pressure off? I wish you were my neighbor, then I would stop over! I wish you all the luck in getting out of your situation. When is he due home?
My suggestion would be, when you get home, let him scream and yell, but DON'T raise your voice, don't engage him in any way. When he is quiet, tell him you see things just aren't working out, you are tired of the nonsense, and that maybe you two should start making plans to seperate. That can either be a wake up call for him to straighten out and work on your issues, or maybe he will agree and you can move on from there.
The one thing I learned from my marriage is, don't let things drag on and on. It will only make you more bitter and resentful. The sooner you take control of your problem, the sooner it will be resolved, and that is best for everyone involved, especially your sanity.
I am kind of affraid to say anything to him. He has been abusive in the past. My kids are out of town with my parents visiting for two weeks and that is more of a reason to hit me. He is more aware of what he is doing when they are around.
Can you not take your kids to your parents house and stay there while going through the seperation/divorce? I know if my daughter were in your situation, I'd be upset if she didn't take my grandbabies and herself out of there, and I'd be more than willing to help financially, etc., if that is what she needed...
I have a nice job where I am at. I would hate to leave it. My parents live in West Virginia in an area that doesnt have much employment. I wouldnt be able to support myself or the kids. My parents are retired and on a fixed income and I couldnt ask them to support us.
I don't know what state you are in, but I believe in most states you can take family leave for up to four months and still have your job when you get back. Try a temp agency near your parents house, that may be enough income to get you by while going through this. Thats about all the advice I have, unfortunately. Haven't gone through it myself. Maybe others have better advice?
Thanks for the advice. I am in Maryland. I work in Washington DC becuase the pay is about double than that in the area where I live. I have been saving for a while to get my own place. I need enough money for two months rent and a month of all bills so I can get a head when I move. I will probably stay until I can get that and just grin and bear it.
I was looking for advice on how to handle the issue today.
Well, in that case, like I said originally, don't engage him in any way. Or better, spend the night at a friends house. Or spend the month at a friends house until you have the money you need, keep your kids at grandma's...
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