[kola]

My mother in law of thirty years who I have really had no trouble with has made me very angry. She is a very Christian woman. Three days before Mothers Day this year, while I was not at home she left some flowers under our carport. She left a flower for me with a card, and a flower for my daughter-law and card, a flower for my oldest daughter and card. She did not leave anything for my youngest daughter who is 25 and unmarried. She and her 6 year old live with us. My youngest daughter saw the gifts before I did. She said "Look what my grandmother thinks of me". She was very upset and cried and cried. A day or so later my husbands sister who lives in another town called and I mentioned it to her. She said well I do not under stand why my mother would have done that but then again She may believe that mothers day was associated with being married and as a wife. Right after that my mother in law called and ask if we got the three flowers and she asked if there was a sack there for my youngest daughter I told her no, and I told her how upset her youngest granddaughter was. She started saying she never would had left her out that somebody must have got the sack. (I know in my heart that is untrue)And then she told me that she would get her something eles. Well that has not happened. It was not that my daughter is upset about getting a gift she feels like her grandmother, It just hurt her feelings. When our daughter was pregnant and sick, her grandmother told me Well maybe it would be better if she lost the baby anyway. I am very hurt by what she has done. Can anybody give me advice.

[Bullgator]

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Sounds to me like like you sister-in-law telephoned her mother, and whatever she said to her caused your mother-in-law to re-think what she had done.

Unfortunately, instead of admitting the truth and asking for forgiveness (which would have been the Christian thing to do), she made up a lie to make herself look better.

She needs to repent of that self-righteousness, and understand that her righteousness before God depends not on what SHE does but upon what Christ did on her behalf.

If she were secure in her own position with God -- if she *truly* understood what Christ had done to achieve that for her -- she would be free to repent of this self-righteousness. Then she would be free to love your youngest daughter and her child.

JMHO