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Old 5th June 2006, 3:55 AM   #1
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Double standards or what?

Hey guys i was just wanting an opion of some of you.

Well me and my girlfriend have been together now for 11 months, we have our ups and downs like most couples do but we have survived this long and i love her to death and she loves me to, Anyways Last night she read a comment on a photo on Myspace it was a Friends Friend of myne and the comment was made in febuary so 5 months ago now.(not that it really matters how long ago it was) well the comment was "nice boobies : p " (they are just way out of proportion to her body and me and my friends always say stuff to her like that just as a joke)

Well when my girlfriend read that last night she got very angrey with me, (which i accept and i have accepted i made the mistake and am very sorry) she didnt talk to me all night and then when i spoke to her today she was still mad at me, she says my Trust level has gone down now.

Ne ways what the double standard is that she also has myspace and she met some guy on there and got his phone number and his msn address(which makes me quite mad and she knows this but has never appologised to me about it) She tells me that he initiated it and everything but i just think its stupid coz she easily could of said "no i have a boyfriend".

So obviously she liked this guys attention enough to give out her phone number to. a week ago they were chatting on msn and she was about to have a shower and he told her he was going to call her while she was having a shower as a joke!! ( this guy really ticks me off) so when she was having a shower he called her. well i got pretty mad about this and i told her how i felt about it all.

I just think its a bit of a double standard her being so mad at me about what i said which was not ment to cause ne harm it was quite innocent,( i dont have her phone number nor have her msn adress just because i dont want it i dont need to meet other people because i love her so much.) but then on the other hand she gives her phone number out to some guy she met on myspace it just doesnt seem right.......

When i got home today the first thing i did was cancell myspace account just beacuse it has really caused a few problems in our relationship im just so sick of it.

Reading back over this sounds quite stupid but i just want to know what u guys think.
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Old 5th June 2006, 4:14 AM   #2
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She is very controlling and insecure and yes she is going by a double standard. You shouldn't have closed your myspace account to cater to her insecurities. What she did by giving out her phone number and even talking to another guy on myspace is bad. What you did by posting 'nice boobs' is very innocent in comparison.

Maybe she is trying to make you look bad so you don't focus on the unacceptable behavior she is doing. I mean giving out her number and talking to a guy picking up on her and allowing him to call her while she's naked in the shower, compared with a 2 word comment you and your friends all left for a girl who's boobs were laughingly big is no comparison.

Instead of apologizing to her and shutting down your account, why don't YOU get mad at HER? That would make more sense and put things in proper perspective. Why doesn't SHE change her number, her msn account and close down her account? The fact that she doesn't feel guilty while you do for a less significant offense is not a good sign.

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