[Big_A]

My ex dumped me, in a very sudden fashion, about 6 weeks ago. While I’ll admit that I am still hurting, I’ve had a couple of pretty good days. Today at school (I’m a 32 year old undergrad) one of my fellow students mentioned that I had lost some weight and looked good. I realized that I am improving myself by:

• eating better, and much less
• working out more
• connecting with my friends and family (who have been wonderful to me)
• studying harder
• learning more about myself

I want to hear from you. Tell me how you are better since they left and how much better you’ll be in the future. Let’s feel good about ourselves.

[KittenMoon]

I lost weight. 10-12 lbs on a 5' 2" frame, so very noticeable. I also cut my hair drastically.

People keep telling me I look great- it makes me want to scream!!!! (I said to my mom I'd rather be fat and happy than thinner and miserable)

I also took a writing course, which ended recently but I was invited into a writers group run by some of the other class people. It's by invite only, so that made me happy. I just got back from the first meeting I've been able to attend.

I also started jogging. And a novel.

[johan]

I haven't improved. I'm less happy. Less confident. More reclusive. More grouchy. Less fulfilled. More uptight about my future.

That's not all there is to me, but those are ingredients in my life now.

Maybe this was off topic. But I didn't have a lot to improve. I was in good shape when I was with her.

[riobikini]

Big_A,

"Bravo!!!"

(B-I-G Smile)

-Rio

[jerbear]

great job big_a.

How I have improved:

• Graduated grad school at the school of my 1st choice 14 years ago got rejected from a great university
• Better boundaries
• Better understanding of financial markets (still lost money but hey!)
• Better and broader job prospects
• Don't put up with other people's problems as my own and will throw it back to them unless they are family or VERY close friends (friends of family)
• Better writer (C-'s to B+'s on a grad level)
• Updated my resume
• Said "Hi" to ladies I think and view as pretty; regardless of rejection
• More time to enjoy other things

[GW7147]

Big A,
Congrats on the great attitude. As with you, my girlfriend suddenly broke up with me about 4 weeks ago. It was devastating!! Everybody that has seen me said I lost weight. I actually lost 22 pounds. I think I lost it from the stress of losing her (Not the best way to diet). I've been working hard on my job to take my mind off of things, started lifting weights again and have been riding bicycle about 15 miles a day. I started golfing once a week and reconnected with some friends. It definitely makes you feel better. I'm still low at times but, I've actually started seeing a counselor to help me get through the tough parts. It has helped me understand things better. of course, this site has been a tremoundous help as well. I think I felt a huge improvement in myself after find the Shack. Keep it up everybody!!