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If i were to tell a female (age 19), that i use the stockmarket as my source of income and she asks "how much money do you make from it?" and i say "****loads, but i don't like to let people know i am mr richie rich" then she replies "i would probably loose it all"...
Define ****loads ? to a 19 year old 5k is a ****load but to a 50 year old who has been working his whole life and is retiring on his 401 k 5k may be nothing
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I'm a bit lost on your conditional ("If I were") that suggest this is a potential conversation whereas later on you seem to indicate it happened, which is it?
Regardless if she asked about it and it's true why would it be arrogant? If you volunteered it with no invitation then yes, maybe it's bragging.
As for your question in the thread name, it very much depends on the woman as well as on the man (e.g. how he aquired that wealth, do his other attributes compliment that or are they inexistent hence that mere fact would have to compensate, etc) but on a whole I'd say a vast majority do. Except for exceptions such as women who are themselves very well to do financially, or even those enamoured with the "poor long haired poet" image, in general yes, women would be concerned with a man's financial status because it taps into many areas from genetical makeup to maybe having a high IQ, and so on.
As with everything else balance is the key and in my experience rich mature men are well too versed -maybe so much so- in spotting gold diggers so the paranoia may well spoil their chances, but that's another story.
Now in your story she's 19, age is a factor as well, statistically women seem to be more interested in a man's income as they advance in age, meaning an 18 year old interested in dating only won't be as concerned as long as he can maybe pay for the movie but a 30 year old ready for marriage may want to know if a prospective partner will be solvable financially at least to the degree that they can both contribute and have a comfortable life together.
In short, it depends
Also I'm as curious as Art_Critic may or may not be. What's your definition of "****loads"?
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It would probably sound better to say something like "I play the market to cover my bills" if someone asks.
It's just a little hypocritical I guess because you are basically saying, "I don't like to tell people I am 'rich'" at the same time... you are saying you are rich. It sounds sort of lame.
Having read your posts before and replied... can I just be honest? Right, thanks, here goes.
You NEED to relax. No one conversation completely screws anything up, not one gesture, it won't be in the way she sat down or brushed her hair or in the way she answered a question. Besides you claim you were honest about it so what do you propose you should have done? Said you're on welfare to make sure you keep the girl?
To be honest with you, men who flaunt their money make me want to vomit. I always feel like by them telling me how much they make (I hear it a lot) that they're trying to overcompensate for something else. Just relax and talk about common interests and such. Impressing her will only get you so far.
If i were to tell a female (age 19), that i use the stockmarket as my source of income and she asks "how much money do you make from it?" and i say "****loads, but i don't like to let people know i am mr richie rich"
is this showing arrogance or bragging?
well, obviously you do like to tell people...cause you did. and mr. richie rich? come on.
i would think you were a massive tool. i probably wouldn't believe you, and i definitely wouldn't hang out long enoough to find out.
you can let someone know that you are not hurting for cash in a normal way that isn't cheesy and ridiculous (i can almost see the cartoon gleam in the cartoon teeth of the cartoon meathead). if you have to try this hard to impress a 19-year-old girl, money isn't going to help you anyway.
just be yourself.
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I don't think I would waste my time with a girl who finds wealth attractive enough to be a deciding factor. Personally I think achivement and stability is more attractive than pure wealth.
If i were to tell a female (age 19), that i use the stockmarket as my source of income and she asks "how much money do you make from it?" and i say "****loads, but i don't like to let people know i am mr richie rich" then she replies "i would probably loose it all"...
is this showing arrogance or bragging?
Yeah it's bragging. If you really didn't like to tell people, you wouldn't have told. If she's intelligent, she probably saw how lame that was. Doesn't mean you ruined it by just saying that one thing though.
Anyway, girls don't all like a guy who's arrogant. I find it unattractive. I've gone on a date with guys who've talked about the stuff they own, how successful they are, and how great they are, and it's a huge turn-off. I'm not the only woman who thinks that either. One of my friends lost interest in a guy she had went out with cause he just kept talking about his money, his boat, etc. etc.
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Yeah. The old, "I don't mean to brag but. . ." routine is pretty lame. Unless she's a complete airhead, she'll realize you were bragging.
Then again, she's 19. She probably doesn't care too much about a guy's personality at that age. She's interested in a guy she can be attracted to and can show her a good time. Having money helps in the showing her a good time part of it.
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I think that financial security is very important in a potential partner. I am attracted to drive and motivation to succeed than an actual figure he pulls in a year. He could be earning the average salary or even a low salary.. and I would be satisfied that he is pulling his weight and understands you have to work to live. I would never select dates based on how 'wealthy' they were though. All I am looking for is that he works a secure job [or as secure as a job can be] has a plan as to where he wants to go, and will contribute to our lives together. If he turned out to be fabulously rich, depending on how modest he was, It probably wouldn't hurt dating him
I went from a relationship where my partner lived off the government with benefits etc because he had no idea what he wanted, and whilst at the time very briefly it was 'romantic' [eugh] that we [well I] worked hard to live together, it got very tiresome and was one of the major contributors to my reasons why I wanted to end things.
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