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Old 31st March 2006, 5:30 PM   #1
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How do you know you're bisexual?

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Just a quick question....how do you know you're bisexual? I mean, if you fantasize about people of the same sex, how can you tell if its just that, a fantasy, or something more that maybe should be given some thought?

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Old 31st March 2006, 11:24 PM   #2
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Fairly easy. I'm not attracted to members of my own sex. Being a heterosexual male, I find the female form arrousing and enticing, not the male.

What more is there?

Guess that means I'm not bisexual.

Then again, I never thought I was!

Reverse everything I posted and you may find your answer.
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Old 1st April 2006, 11:43 AM   #3
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If you are curious, why not experiment abit and see how you feel? I don't know if you're with someone now so that may not be possible...But if you are single, see what happens.
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Old 1st April 2006, 11:55 AM   #4
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ummm, yeah....there is no such thing as bisexuality. You are either gay or straight and will always prefer one sex over the other.
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Old 1st April 2006, 12:16 PM   #5
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ummm, yeah....there is no such thing as bisexuality. You are either gay or straight and will always prefer one sex over the other.
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Old 1st April 2006, 12:16 PM   #6
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Obviously bisexuality exists for some people. Being bisexual means being attracted to BOTH sexes at the same time, doesn't it? If she prefers men but is still very attracted to women and has had sex with them too, that makes her bisexual.
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Old 1st April 2006, 4:46 PM   #7
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ummm, yeah....there is no such thing as bisexuality. You are either gay or straight and will always prefer one sex over the other.
Bisexuality does exist. As long as you enjoy the company of both sexes, then I believe that they call that bisexuality. You may prefer one more then the other but if you enjoy them both, you are a bisexual.
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Old 1st April 2006, 4:53 PM   #8
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I agree with The Riddler, bisexuality very much exists.

The way I define it is that you feel attraction for both genders. It does not need to be equal and you can indeed have a preference, but, for example... If a guy likes to look at other guys and occasionally fantasizes about them, but ultimately prefers to have a relationship with a woman, he could be as bisexual as, say, somebody who has had multiple sex partners of both genders.

I am bisexual. For me, I prefer men and I am currently married to one, but I have had relationships with females in the past and if I weren't married, I would most definitely consider potential female relationships just as I would with men.

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Old 2nd April 2006, 12:50 PM   #9
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I agree with The Riddler, bisexuality very much exists.
thats funny cause many of the sex experts and researchers say that true bisexuality is non-existent. since they are the experts I would hope they know what they are talking about.

how come you don't see anyone clamouring to pass laws so that a person can marry both a man and a woman at the same time??
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Old 2nd April 2006, 1:02 PM   #10
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Hell, I've been attracted to the same sex before. Like, "Wow, she is really pretty." ....and then proceed to stare a bit. I've had women do this to me as well. Women study each other. Kind of like, what does she have that I don't have?

But, I don't fantasize about having sex with them.

That would be indicative of a bigger issue in my opinion.
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Old 2nd April 2006, 1:06 PM   #11
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I am bisexual. For me, I prefer men and I am currently married to one, but I have had relationships with females in the past and if I weren't married, I would most definitely consider potential female relationships just as I would with men.

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I used to say I was bisexual. Now I just try not to be specific. I am sexually attracted to both, can have sex with both genders, but prefer the company of men -- so I feel that is not true bisexuality.

Also, IMO, in terms of sexuality and gender identity, I feel that bisexuality would also insinuate a certain gender-neutral affiliation so to speak. I have met a small selection of individuals who seemed like that.

But Kinsey did a bunch of research on the subject of human sexuality in the 1950s that clearly states that sexuality and gender preference is based on a continuum, so I have no idea why people are always ignoring this large body of research and still identify themselves as gay or straight.

Of course people in this country have so little respect for longitudinal research and statistically significant results that it's almost sickening.
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Old 2nd April 2006, 1:13 PM   #12
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Of course people in this country have so little respect for longitudinal research and statistically significant results that it's almost sickening.
thats cause we don't like to be bothered with the "details"....
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how come you don't see anyone clamouring to pass laws so that a person can marry both a man and a woman at the same time??
Probably because the number of bisexual polygamists is pretty small. Bisexuality doesn't mean you fall in love with two people simultaneously. It means you may fall in love with a homosexual or a heterosexual and be equally sexually attracted to either.
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how come you don't see anyone clamouring to pass laws so that a person can marry both a man and a woman at the same time??
Just because an individual may prefer both sexes, it doesn't mean that they have forgotten about morals in terms of marriage.
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Old 2nd April 2006, 6:14 PM   #15
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Statisticians out of the closet?

so the sequel to Brokeback Mountain will deal with two statisticians
who have to battle the statisticiaphobes who won't accept their joint research techiques?



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Just because an individual may prefer both sexes, it doesn't mean that they have forgotten about morals in terms of marriage.
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