I am so frustrated right now it is ridiculous. I have been the OW for about 6 months now. And yes, I have become increasingly unhappy with what I have become with each passing day... Now I just do not know what to do...
So, I get a call from my MM the other day and he tells me his wife found a text message from me that said "Ok sweetheart" he has me under a male friend's name in his phone, but she is not an idiot. I am totally paranoid now and he is acting like nothing has happened! What is the deal? It is like he is trying to get caught. Also, his office manager looked at his credit card statement which had hotel stays charged on it and also snooped in his email and found emails he did not delete between him and I. She has worked for him for over 10 years now and has taken it upon herself to be somewhat of a "mother hen" I am feeling so overwhelmed right now I do not know what to do. This whole thing started out so small and now it just keeps snowballing. And whats worse, everytime I confront him about how he is going to get caught, he just laughs. It is just sick. I think I am going to break things off... Any suggestions??
All i can say is i've been through getting caught & all the long meetings w/ all 3 of us ( me,W,MM) which i might add resulted to nothing, as i was not going to fix there marriage for them. i just wanted out.
I think you MM is just playin w/ fire & basically if he doesnt seem to care that the secret will be found out than honestly... he has more to lose than u rite?... than i think Fine play the game & keep all documents, bills etc etc JUST in case he changes the story.
Play it safe...
& as per my MM after being caught i basically told him... to continue to play happy family & dont expect me to stand back & clap to his acting skills... because i know that he scared of talk & always wanted to be the good guy AFTER getting her preg as a teen.. look where that go them?.
He knows how i feel... & i he knows that i will not be looking at my phone every few mins hoping to hear from him...
I was cow when he fell in love w/ me & changed cos i loved him BUT at the end if he was going to act all hard before being confronted w/ proof & cry like a little boy who just scraped him knee... all i can say is "Moo!"
Boy is he playing with fire. There's nothing funny about it. Does he laugh in his wife's face? His attitude is pathetic. I agree. Keep your own records. If you read my post "my story", you'll see I took the brunt and the blame. Sounds like the whole thing is a game to him.
Just walk away
If u think its aggrivating in 6 months, wait til that 6 months turns into 3 years & he still haven't left. Time flies Don't waste your time with a MM. I did, & i lost 3 1/2 years of the best years of my life. Get out, he's not going to leave.
My ex MM was the same way, charged hotels on his credit card, bought my gifts on his credit card, had our apartment in his name & all bills in his name, he has 150 calls to me on his cell phone, we walked the streets of NY holding hands. I asked him what if he gets caught, & he said so what, he just didn't care, He said if we get caught we get caught.
It's out of your control right now, meaning what the mother hen does, and what he does. The only thing you can control is yourself.
IF you feel messed up about this affair, END IT. Ofcourse it won't be easy but if you continue down this path your life will always be filled with high drama and an emotional rollercoaster ride.
everytime I confront him about how he is going to get caught, he just laughs.
sounds like a real self-centered sleazebag. Trust me, life is short and you don't need to be wasting it on a jerk, married or not. You're worthy of much, much better than someone like that.
just walk away, knowing that there can only be a relationship if you are a willing participant (even if you're drawn to it against your will, like watching a bad car wreck).
I don't understand how people get into relationships w/ mm/mw. But I'm not here to judge, think about all the pain your going through right now. Do you desearve it?? Probably not but think about his wife, think about that pain doubling 10 fold when she finds out. But thats inevitable now. End it now before you fall even deeper into his lies.
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