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I just need some advice on where to find nice girls, besides at work. Sometimes it seems that balanced women are hard to find. I don't need a supermodel, or nobel prize winner, or a trillionnaire but just someone who's not too messed up.
It just that sometimes you hear women say that all the good men are taken. Sometimes I feel like all the good women are taken, so the trick must be in matching these two groups.
i hear this a lot too from girls. they always complain about how they cannot find nice guys, but they always scam on some smooth talking , spiked up hair, mercedes driving punk. After these guys use the girl up, she gets tossed back out there and she goes for another same guy and complain.
the truth is... girls don't want nice guys. they like abusive jerks. its true! if u want a girl, start acting like a jerk and start abusing they like it.
the truth is... girls don't want nice guys. they like abusive jerks. its true! if u want a girl, start acting like a jerk and start abusing they like it.
A-freakin-men! I totally agree... and it kinda sucks for the "nice guy."
It's really not so much that its the guy acting like a jerk, although often times its the case. It's the confidence thing... women seem to translate being jerk as being really confident. They interpret "nice" as the guy being a pushover, a.k.a. no challenge whatsoever.
I also have trouble in this department... I really don't know where to meet a good girl.... :\
here's my secret:
since we are probably in school or something... just focus on that, get ur degree and pump $. Then go to foreign countries and get urself a nice/cute girl. Screw USA girls. FAT AS ****, UGLY as hell... oh ya and they are stuck up because they were taught the ways of being a bitch or feminazi.
i am currently chatting with some foreign girls and OMG, they are so hot compared to usa girls. hot/conservative/ and home quality.
The REAL truth is that we ALL are NOT perfect and plenty of us are f***ed up in some way ;ie not perfect ~ so wanting a perfectly balanced female with a great personality and awesome job is like wanting a perfectly balanced male with a great personality and awesome job .....Reality Check !
Yes ,there are great girls out there and some are slighty imperfect ~to major messed up~ but the best unions are those of two *imperfect* people ( AND yes thats YOU ) .
You can't expect perfection because you are NOT perfect either...
And this crappyola about being a JERK is soooooooooo OFF BASE !
We DON'T want a jerk but we dont want a SOFT SAP either. We want a GOOD GUY who is GOOD to US !
I know thats hard to conceive that you dont really have to be a JERK but seriously I wont put up with that crap and neither will any of the female posters here....Just ask them !
Ask them if they want a loud mouthed, rude, insolent, arrogant pri**k.....they will tell you NO.
Ask them if they want a whiney, feminine, no back bone ,unopinionated, wimp and they will tell you NO
But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !
mary:
of course if you ask a girl straight up if they love jerks or softies, then they will say no. But the majority of girls out there does otherwise. Saying and doing are two different things and most people tend to say and not do what they say.
Obviously most girls do not want a prick, however, in real life, they date pricks cuz like what masaki said: girls like a guy who has a backbone. (and being a jerk is the only way to show it?) Smart playas who knows this and tune into the girl's wants and bingo, they got pussy faster than the average quiet dude.
If you say is true, then the many girls that i've overheard in class would not complain about the guys they meet as being jerks. Then again these are the chicks that has no manners and leave the cell phones ringing during class (attention whores).
"But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !"
This is one of the reasons girls fall for jerks. Remember, the jerks know that girls are looking for this... so they drive nice cars and dress nice. They start out treating girls nicely, but act tuff... they drive maybe a lexus or bmw/mercedes... Girls love this.
I'm not exactly rich myself... but im much better off than those scammers and im very quiet and willing to dedicate much to a relationship. But seeing how USA girls are all feminazi, im scared.
As Teddy Roosevelt said, "Speak softly and carry a big stick..."
Last edited by ddnnee; 8th March 2006 at 5:47 AM..
You can't expect perfection because you are NOT perfect either...
And this crappyola about being a JERK is soooooooooo OFF BASE !
We DON'T want a jerk but we dont want a SOFT SAP either. We want a GOOD GUY who is GOOD to US !
I know thats hard to conceive that you dont really have to be a JERK but seriously I wont put up with that crap and neither will any of the female posters here....Just ask them !
Ask them if they want a loud mouthed, rude, insolent, arrogant pri**k.....they will tell you NO.
Ask them if they want a whiney, feminine, no back bone ,unopinionated, wimp and they will tell you NO
But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !
Excellent advice!! I agree 100%. NO good woman wants a jerk! Unfortunately, the guys that are jerks end up charming woman into relationships (pretending to be something they are not) and than suddenly you look up and realize he's a control freak with no integrity. Happens to the best of us I guess.
The REAL truth is that we ALL are NOT perfect and plenty of us are f***ed up in some way ;ie not perfect ~ so wanting a perfectly balanced female with a great personality and awesome job is like wanting a perfectly balanced male with a great personality and awesome job .....Reality Check !
Yes ,there are great girls out there and some are slighty imperfect ~to major messed up~ but the best unions are those of two *imperfect* people ( AND yes thats YOU ) .
You can't expect perfection because you are NOT perfect either...
And this crappyola about being a JERK is soooooooooo OFF BASE !
We DON'T want a jerk but we dont want a SOFT SAP either. We want a GOOD GUY who is GOOD to US !
I know thats hard to conceive that you dont really have to be a JERK but seriously I wont put up with that crap and neither will any of the female posters here....Just ask them !
Ask them if they want a loud mouthed, rude, insolent, arrogant pri**k.....they will tell you NO.
Ask them if they want a whiney, feminine, no back bone ,unopinionated, wimp and they will tell you NO
But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !
Then why is it that the *jerks* get the vast majority of female attention both here and IRL?
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I dunno about the rest of you but I think if everyone in the world had an orgasm at the same time we would achieve world peace.
The REAL truth is that we ALL are NOT perfect and plenty of us are f***ed up in some way ;ie not perfect ~ so wanting a perfectly balanced female with a great personality and awesome job is like wanting a perfectly balanced male with a great personality and awesome job .....Reality Check !
Yes ,there are great girls out there and some are slighty imperfect ~to major messed up~ but the best unions are those of two *imperfect* people ( AND yes thats YOU ) .
You can't expect perfection because you are NOT perfect either...
And this crappyola about being a JERK is soooooooooo OFF BASE !
We DON'T want a jerk but we dont want a SOFT SAP either. We want a GOOD GUY who is GOOD to US !
I know thats hard to conceive that you dont really have to be a JERK but seriously I wont put up with that crap and neither will any of the female posters here....Just ask them !
Ask them if they want a loud mouthed, rude, insolent, arrogant pri**k.....they will tell you NO.
Ask them if they want a whiney, feminine, no back bone ,unopinionated, wimp and they will tell you NO
But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !
Amen to Mary!
Have you tried meeting decent girls in . . . oh, I dunno, say, church?
Frankly, I'm finding it hard to put some of the guys with their crapola responses in the nice guys category.
I just need some advice on where to find nice girls, besides at work. Sometimes it seems that balanced women are hard to find. I don't need a supermodel, or nobel prize winner, or a trillionnaire but just someone who's not too messed up.
It just that sometimes you hear women say that all the good men are taken. Sometimes I feel like all the good women are taken, so the trick must be in matching these two groups.
Care to share your secrets?
You may wanna check out a sanctuary for *good* and *nice* women cuz that's where they would all most likely be found. They seem to be an endangered species these days.
mary:
of course if you ask a girl straight up if they love jerks or softies, then they will say no. Neither oneBut the majority of girls out there does otherwise.No you just thinks thats the case Saying and doing are two different things and most people tend to say and not do what they say.Most people should do what they say
Obviously most girls do not want a prick, however, in real life, they date pricks cuz like what masaki said: girls like a guy who has a backbone. (and being a jerk is the only way to show it?) wrong again Smart playas who knows this and tune into the girl's wants and bingo, they got pussy faster than the average quiet dude.good guys get pu**sy too if they know how to treat a girl
If you say is true, then the many girls that i've overheard in class would not complain about the guys they meet as being jerks. Then again these are the chicks that has no manners and leave the cell phones ringing during class (attention whores). having no manners or being an attention whore does not excuse the girl from having rude behavior and does not set as an idicator that ALL girls behave this way
"But ask them if they want a great guy who treats them awesome who is stable in employment and disposition and they will tell you YES !"
This is one of the reasons girls fall for jerks. Remember, the jerks know that girls are looking for this...Jerks have high failure rates with women because we sicken easily of the bullshi** so they drive nice cars and dress nice. They start out treating girls nicely, but act tuff... they drive maybe a lexus or bmw/mercedes... Girls love this. Most girls might like a nice car but almost ALL girls prefer a decent man with a good attitude and heart
I'm not exactly rich myself... but im much better off than those scammers and im very quiet and willing to dedicate much to a relationship. But seeing how USA girls are all feminazi, im scared. USA girls can be femnazis, lesbians ,serial killers , whores , scammers but they can ALSO be wonderful human beings that you may never get to know because you stereotyped them into a certain category when in fact not all women act that way you desribe
As Teddy Roosevelt said, "Speak softly and carry a big stick..." No its more like talk less, listen closely and you might learn something here ...
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