i decided to put my "free profile" up and see what happened. I left my essay very short-a single paragraph that described me and what kind of man is my type.
it's amazing how many guys that reply are not even reading my profile in terms of what i'm looking for, apparently. and about 40% of the emails i've received have been from men in foreign countries. that is just weird--i mean--why????
i did a search, found one man that interested me, and sent him an icebreaker. he replied in bold in one line , "can't wait to hear from you again."
I would have to subscribe and pay about $40 to answer his email, and there is no one else on the site that interests me at this time.
I don't know how to take it. if he was interested wouldn't he have sent me more than one line or asked some questions?
is this a typical blow-off line for online dating? i really haven't done it before.
Last edited by cygny; 7th February 2006 at 5:06 PM.
Cygny, when I had an ad on CL I deleted the ones who replied with one or two lines. It showed me they didn't take the time to read the ad they just responded to the picture.
Believe me, I deleted a LOT of responses.
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i wondered if maybe my ad was too short, because i did get 2 replies that mentioned the brevity. i pretty much believe that guys hate to read and only look at pics anyway, that's why i kept my essay so short, thinking that they could at least find it easy to read *that* much, lol.
No not really. Not online at least. What I am finding is:
a. There are a lot of fakes out there.
b. People are using very old pictures.
c. There are many people out there lying to themselves.
d. I'm not interested in breaking up a marriage.
So I've staved off of internet dating right now in favor of meeting people locally and seeing if we have something in common. We'll see.
My email is jarbarian at yahoo dot com. I can send you a copy of my ad if you want to see what I wrote just to get an idea.
hey that would be nice--i put my email addy in my profile under the notes.
oh the fakes, forget it!--it's almost like i expect there will be some lie--and i've gotten several replies from guys with no photos--those guys have to be married or in relationships--right? i mean,--who would reply to an ad with no photo--that is taking the idea of blind date to a new level, lol.
I just did this, put up a free profile...I've met a couple of very cool people actually. I just did the free profile thingy...so I can't contact people I want to talk to...I can only talk to them if they contact me. every guy has contacted me BUT the one I want to talk to LOL
same here about the guy i was interested in. why is that, lol??
i was going to send another icebreaker to him (the guy who sent me the oneline response), but the site won't let me. do you think it was a non-response anyway? or a piece of player-bait? or is that the same thing, lol?
which site are you on? mine won't let me respond unless i subscribe...
some people just don't read your profile ...I've had some people totally not even close to my interests try to contact me...I block 'em right away..hahaha. And when I'm talking to them...they have about 3 sentences to make a good impression or I ditch them...seriously, I never thought I made judgements that quick but I can tell right away whether someone's not a good match or not.
on your site...are you not able to talk to anyone? on this one...I can recieve emails...I just can't read them. But if you look at someone's profile, they can see that, and if they send me an instant msg...then I can talk to them.
i can send an icebreaker--those are oneliners that have been preselected by the site, there are about 10 to choose from. i can also receive both icebreakers and emails. but i cannot send emails unless i subscribe. i think there are ways to get around this, but it takes some effort.
biggest problem is there doesn't seem to be other guys that i'd have much interest in, at least not in the long term. so i think i will let it go...maybe i'll try your site.
How long have you been doing it? Anything interesting about it?
About two years ago I did it non stop....I met some great people...dated but never ended up being serious. Have you gone on any dates?
Can I be honest....I think you and Cali Guy would be great! =)
I can c some chemistry by just reading your post back and forth to each other....
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whoa incognito nice site. but it won't let me register because i'm not in the us or canada at the moment. threw me off when i tried. i'll have to wait til i get back there, damn.
Cygny,
I wouldn't pay up if only one guy sends his interest..
He might have sent the email just to see if you reply..
If you are real serious about staying at the Y place then pay .. but don't do it for one guy..
The chance of you throwing away the money is pretty high.
Being that his replay was "can't wait to hear from you again."
instead of him throwing in his email addy..
On sites that I know that the women have to pay to play I always give them a way to get in touch with me without having to pay.
Although on some sites like match you have to pay just to read the email..
Sites like m____ maker you don't
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