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Old 20th January 2006, 2:48 PM   #1
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Ex got engaged to spite me

In case you guys don't know, I got engaged in October. Plans are going well. A few weeks ago I head my ex got engaged. To my brothers ex. (funny how things work). They've been together since September. Now, I know him and I know her. She was with my brother for about 3 years. So I KNOW her. When i was with him he said he was not ready to get married and that he wouldn't be ready for a while. So when I heard the news, i was kinda thrown back. Now, I know that he wouldn't change his views on marriage for her. Especially within 3 months of being with her. So, my brother gets a phone call from her the other day and she said "Tell you sister I can get engaged to, to her ex"! My brother said he heard my ex in the background saying immature things like "Tell him when and how happy we are and we can get engaged too!"
So i'm like, WHO GIVES A *****!!!!!
I really really really, with every fiber of my being, don't care. It really seems like he's doing just to be like if you can get engaged, so can I.
They actually think their hurting me. She's loving that its my ex that she's engaged to. She's thriving off of it. When she called my brother he told her I don't give a rats ass and to have fun and congrats. That got her soooo mad, him too. So now I'm getting IM's "Me and your ex just had sex"

How can I get it through her head that I DON'T CARE! I'm happy and I don't think I have thought about him since the day i got over him.
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:01 PM   #2
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Ignore her.
It's no fun for her if you don't respond.
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:07 PM   #3
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IHNFC! Long time no see.

Weeeeell, I would say just be calm cool collected and the more she needles you, the more you should be all sweet and such.

"CongratuLAtions. So happy for you. All the best" that sorta thing.
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:18 PM   #4
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I have pretty much been doing that. I just keep saying congrats and kinda telling her about my wedding plans! How we're actually going to go through with it and your just doing it to have fun. The sweetest thing is when she finds out about his possessivness and he kinds out about her bipolarness. HAHAHAH Tha should be fun. Ho are things with you otter? Moved to Europe yet?
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:28 PM   #5
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I have pretty much been doing that. I just keep saying congrats and kinda telling her about my wedding plans! How we're actually going to go through with it and your just doing it to have fun. The sweetest thing is when she finds out about his possessivness and he kinds out about her bipolarness. HAHAHAH Tha should be fun. Ho are things with you otter? Moved to Europe yet?
Nope. That was a bust. I got a pretty bad cocaine problem for a while there. I'm in AA now. He went back to Scotland.

I'm shockingly single. Wonders never cease!
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:39 PM   #6
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Good for you! Glad your smart enough to get rid of the cause of the problem. Especially if he was right there with you holding the dollar bill.
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:55 PM   #7
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these people are sooo imature. The best thing you can do is ignor it, like a small child or little dog bitting at your ankles, they will get the hint and go away. Don't respond.
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Old 20th January 2006, 3:59 PM   #8
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Ohhh yeah...he gets back to the UK and suddenly I'm the evil person who forced him to buy the cocaine and blow lines with me. I used my psychic powers, apparently.
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