[jello543]

Ok - so we finally got engaged. Yeah!! But I have a major problem. I HATE my engagement ring. Now before everyone jumps all over me for being materialistic this is NOT about how big the diamond is or how much the ring cost. It's all about style. My dream ring would be a colored stone set in a modern platinum or white gold setting. I know - atypical, but it's what I want. The actual ring?? VERY traditional three stone setting in yellow gold. It's absolutely gorgeous, but NOT me.

Is it wrong of me to exchange it for something I like? I don't want him to spend more. In fact looking at the current diamonds, and setting, I guessing what I want would cost less. Really though, it's not about the money, it's about looking down at my finger everyday for the rest of my life and seeing this ring which I don't care for.

Help, what do I do???????

[RainyDayWoman]

wow, i don't know what to tell you...

i was lucky my boyfriend got exactly what i wanted, but it was only because we had talked about it before and i dropped many, many hints so i wouldn't have to go through what you are right now.

would he be easily offended if you told him the truth? did he at any time say "if you don't like it, please be honest?"

i feel for him, because the ring a big, expensive, risky decision to make...but i feel for you too, because it's a lot of money and should ideally reflect what you like and that he knows your taste...

this is a tough one. hopefully someone will have some better advice than i, but please let us know what happens. this could be helpful to a lot of women..and men.

i understand what u mean.. its not that he chose round diamonds and u preffered princess cut.. this is an issue of yellow gold vs white.. and that could really make a difference. do u wear yellow gold? im just wondering why he chose that to begin with. i have known people to change their setting.. maybe it would be best for u to tell him u would prefer the same ring in a white setting.. that way its still his design but in a different colour... and might be a happy middle..

[It's all good]

Not to knock my H but I didn't even get one. So try staring at your finger for the rest of your life with NO RING!!! I'll give you my address and you can send me yours, I'm a size 6. Then tell him you lost it!!! You can go pick out your own style. He has it insured right?

OMG, I'm sooo bad. I'm just kidding folks.

But sadly not about my ring...married 3 years and still waiting for the engagement ring.