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I do not just randomly go out with someone until yes I feel comfortable,
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Totally understandable. And females REALLY need to apply more caution in this area than do males.
But here's something you may not have considered…
Women who are brave enough to post online personals are often FLOODED with responses from overly eager guys. Some of them are sincere, some of them are half-hearted gestures of curiosity (people seeking pen-pals), and a good majority are just creepy pervs looking for kinky cyber sex.
Chances are, you're not the only guy she's corresponding with. The good news is that she actually thought you had some potential, otherwise she would have "deleted" you like the others. But because online personals give people more options than they might otherwise have if meeting singles in the
traditional way, it's all too easy to just move on to the "next" potential candidate rather than waste too much time and energy on someone who may (or may not) show enough interest.
Continue to exercise as much caution as you see fit. But if you're concerned about meeting someone in person you're not yet comfortable with, then I would suggest giving her your phone number so the two of you can talk one-on-one, first. This
might give you a better "feel" for who that person is on the other side of that monitor and help relieve some of those "jitters" before you actually meet in person.
Good Luck!