Guys - how long would you date a girl if there were no sex?
To the LS men, would you continue to date a woman if you were getting no "action" as it were, or how much "action" would be required for you to continue dating.
It depends.. if there was a real big bang type of connection I would go 4-6 months..
If we had been friends before for a long time I could go till marriage.. whatever that is..
It all depends on how much you like them. Guys know if they are really interested in a woman or if they just want to get in their pants and nothing more. The onese you are really interested in you are willing to take your time and get to know them and will wait. The ones you just want to lay you will move on pretty quick if she doesn't give it up within two weeks or less.
I agree with Tudor. If there is a connection, the longer term you see the relationship becoming, the longer you are willing to wait. The shorter term, the less.
If I am really into a women I want to express my desire for her and that includes sex. I guess I am the opposite from most men because if I don't really care about her I don't care about the sex. Sex is important to me as it is an expression of love. I don't really like to have sex with someone I have NO feelings for, it just doesn't feel right. Call me a romantic.
once she puts an embargo on the poon-tang for any extended period (> one month?) then the guy is in deep doo-doo.
I agree with this. Most of the time, if nothing happens after a month or two, she is either with another guy, or she isn't physically attracted to you. A lot of guys end up in the Friendzone because of waiting around.
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Is this hypothetical, or real life? Is your girl holding out after she let you get a taste? Or won't put out from the get-go?
Its real life actually, my question was prompted because a girl I know claims she dated two different guys for over a year and did not have sex with them. Not concurrently I hasten to add. She also claimed to have gone back to two exes, and never had sex with them.
I am a fairly open minded guy etc. However I wondered, who on earth are these guys? I didn't believe a word of it either.
I have never come across any men like this, and I don't honestly think I could date a woman for a year without sex. I couldn't ask her if there was a "Clintonesque" claim going on with her. So I put up the post to see if any guys on LS would actually do this?
Indefinitely if , and only if, there were no other grief attached to the relationship.
And I have dated a few girls like this, on an off, over many years.
One of us finds a party, festival, concert, sporting event , on that s/he thinks the other might like and just gives a ring. Good day out.
These girls arent girlfriends. They are dates. No sex, but none of the grief, that everyone on these boards is so often bleating about, either.
Interesting one Spartacuss, would you have used the word 'relationship' to describe what you have with these girls? Would you say they were friends, 'relationships', girlfriends or what?
Some girls wait till they get to know me. I'll give her all the time she needs, within reason. I've no rule, maybe several months. But if she's playing games, I'll blow her off. If she's really attracted though, things go really quick. The tough part is when she starts asking if I'm seeing anybody else. Do I tell her about other girls, booty calls? I want to be honest with her but I don't want to make her jealous.
If you had sex for a while, but stopped - a problem if it's beyond one month
If you're both young and in love - not a problem.
If you've both been married and are now divorced - probably a problem beyond 10 / 15 dates or so.
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