My GF and I have been together for over a year. She has been living with me that entire time, and I have completely financially supported her. Our relationship kind of stagnated due to a variety of issues (her not getting a job being one of them). Basically, she wanted to get married, and I did not. I believe that we both have decided that the relationship is going nowhere, and she is planning to move to another state before Christmas. We are still talking and on basically good terms. During the past week, we still go out to dinners together, holding hands, and sharing the same bed.

After deciding to break it off, I no longer felt right in having sex since I just don't think it is right to have sex with someone you have no long-term plans with. She will be returning back to my home from running some errands for her parents, and now the question becomes what to do now.

I plan on sleeping in my guest bedroom until she leaves in less than two weeks. Once again, I believe we are transitioning from lovers to friends, and I do not think it is right to be sleeping naked with someone who you have no intention of having a long-term future with.

Financially, I am paying for all her expenses (car transport, airline tickets), but I am struggling with how to handle the fact that she has no way to support herself. I certainly do not plan to support her for another year, but I feel that it is not right that she would expect me to continue to support her for any length of time now that we are just firends. Maybe a month or two of support should be enough time for her to get a job.

[chocolate_boy]

You cannot just instantly go from lovers to friends I don't think, especially not in a long term relationship (a year is long enough).

You need some time apart for the feelings to die, then decide if you both actually still want to be friends.

It's too complex otherwise.