First and I foremost, I want to say that everyone on the site is, in their own way, a sage. I’ve been reading this site for about two weeks and I’ve been struck by the insight and wisdom of each member. More importantly the compassion everyone has shown each other is touching. It’s truly comforting to know that one is not alone when it comes to heartbreak. Now I shall spill my guts. I was dumped 18 days ago by my girlfriend of 8 months. My life has basically sucked since then. I feel like someone has ripped my heart out and is constantly punching me in the stomach. Throughout the day I have moments when I want to either cry like a baby or go to her begging and pleading to take me back. To my credit I have not contacted my ex since the breakup (my friends and I prefer to call it “cold turkey”), but it's been a major struggle. A part of me believes that if I call her I can convince her to take me back and it'll be like the summer when we held each other tight and professed our love for each other. But another part of me says that maintaining NC is the only way I can maintain my dignity (she abruptly dumped me OVER THE PHONE two days before Thanksgiving and was not interested in giving me a second chance) and move on. Since she broke up with me she hasn't contacted me at all. However, she did call one of my friends (my ex is an acquaintance of my friend and doesn’t have an independent friendship with her). According to my friend, when my ex called her she was crying, wanted to see how I was doing and was wondering why I hadn’t called. My friend suggested to my ex that she call me. When my friend told me of the conversation she said that I should be expecting a call from my ex. It’s been over a week since my ex contacted my friend and I still haven’t gotten that call. I know I shouldn’t be waiting for my ex to call, but a part of me hopes that she’ll at least call me. It’ll be my birthday in a week or so and I think that if she doesn’t call me by that time, then she truly doesn’t care for me. NC is so tough, SIGH.
Break ups are about the dumper, and satisfying their own needs, and unfortunetly not the other way around.
My ex dumped me 1 week prior to my birthday, and it just killed me. I was waiting, aching, almost even breaking NC and calling her! But no call, not even an email, nada. That was it for me.
You cant expect a phone call, you cant sit around and wait for her to call you. You need to go out, have some fun, rediscover who you are, and show her that you are strong without her.
You are on your way going cold turkey! Pat yourself on the back , cause its hard aint it? But it's the only way to go! for me, a little over a month of the break up and same for NC, and I feel relieved finally.
You guys make some good points! Although, the fact that she called my friend is giving me some false hope. I'm not saying she wants to get back together with me, but the fact she called my friend crying and asking why I hadn't called has to be a sign of something. I dunno, maybe I'm grasping for straws. She could have easily been calling to assuage her guilt rather than out of any genuine concern for me.The whole thing just sucks. To top it all off literally all my friends are busy this weekend with holiday parties and couple stuff, so I'm stuck at home by myself feeling miserable over a girl I love who discarded me like a worn out pair of socks
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