[ZQRXY]

My fiance left a couple of months ago, Oct 6th to be exact. I begged and pleaded with her, but she said she could not predict the future and wanted to meet new people. I did the no contact thing for a month and then called her. She answered and we had a good talk about what we have been doing. When we were getting off the phone, she said it was really good talking to me, and I said alright bye.

We were together for over 5 years, and friends for 2 years before that. Really good friends. She left me because of my drinking, which I have since stopped. W were going to be married in July, but called the wedding off in March. It wan't just my drinking, but we were having a lot of problems. I really think that this break up needed to happen, but I still love her, she says she loves me, but is not in love with me. She also says that she cares about me. When we talked it was really good. All I want is another chance, it will either work, or it will prove to ME that we just can't be together.

The problem that I am having is that with a second chance it will either work, and be great or it won't work and will truly prove to me that we are not meant to be. I feel like there is not the closure I need to move on. W have mutual friends, and they say she asks about me briefly, but shown no anamosity towards me. When we talked the other day she sounded really excited to hear from me. She asked if I was drinking, I told her the truth and said I have a few times, but when I do I get depresed so I don't do it. She said it was good talking to me.

What is all y'all's take on my situation?

[nextel]

Move on. Even if you did get a second chance, it wont last long. She has already said that she is not "in love with you". Do you really want someone that is not in love with you?

Your choice. My suggestion....move on and find another girl to give that big heart to and do it the right way.

[westernxer]

I don't see anything in her words that hint of coming back to you, especially after you told her you've still been drinking off and on.

[luvtoto]

I think you are reading too much into her actions. She's just being a good friend. If you take her genuine concern for you as a 'door- of- opportunity' to win her love back...you could run the chance of losing her friendship.

Just speakin' from my own experience...

[heartnsoul]

She cares about you as a person but said she's 'not in love with you' anymore. I don't see a window of opportunity in those words. I see someone who you shared a history with showing genuine concern for you.

Good for you for trying to kick your addiction. Blessings come from various life experiences. If this opened your eyes to bettering yourself....she did you a favor

Good luck and God Bless

[ZQRXY]

Ya she has stated she is not in love with me anymore, but I have not drank in a long time, with no desire to. I really love her and want to share my life with her. Shouldn't I be able to win her love back. I dpn't feel like it is a waste of time. I have asked her if we have a chance of reconciliation, she says the chances are slim, but she can not predict the uture.