Hello... Here's my story. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years this October, we have a house together, no kids, but have lived together for about 2 years. We've only talked about marriage once or twice, and he says it's something he eventually wants to do, but that we're just not ready. I don't really agree though, maybe not marriage right away, but at least engaged, and then 2 years from now maybe actually get married. That talk was about a year and a half ago, or so. I've left him once before because I was tired of feeling "used" because he hadn't proposed yet. I set a date to leave him if he hadn't done it yet, (Valentines Day 2006). If he hasn't proposed to me by then, I'm going to break up with him. I told a few of my friends about this, and today I talked to one of them and they told me that Andy (my boyfriend) flat out told them that I wasn't "the one for marriage." That I was too immature, and I wasn't the one.
Andy tells me all the time that he loves me, and I unconditionally believe him, because I know he truly does. I love him just as much. But, after hearing that from my friend today, it leaves me totally confused. The friend that told me this could also me messing with me, I have no way of knowing. I can't picture Andy saying that, but again, I have no real way of knowing. Should I leave him now? Should I wait until February? Should I stick it out until he proposes?? And if so, how long am I supposed to wait?
The house we live in is actually mine, I own it. But we picked it out together and we consider it "our house." If I make him leave, he'd have to move back in with his mother.
It's hard to think of breaking up with him, because we have the last 4 years together, but I need to know that I'm not waiting around for nothing.
Has anyone been in this situation? Is anyone IN this situation right now? Can ANYONE give me advice, please? I really need some opinions here, I don't know what to do.
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