Hello to all of the kind people here!

I'll try to keep it as short as I can and hopefully get a few replies with some advice...

I live with my boyfriend in UK for 5 years. I have found everything in him that I can't find in other people. We never argue, we understand each other and I feel really warm with him, it's one of my people now. I really love him...
He hadn't been in our homecountry for the last 5 years until summer. He had stopped any friendships he had and so on. His "then" best friend was in his msn list but they were rarely chatting (1-2 times per year). Last March I went to my homecountry and met his brothers who then introduced me to my boyfriend's "then" best friend (lets call him John). From then...something has happened in me...I have really fallen in love with John...Nothing has happened between as but I am pretty sure it is mutual. He now wants to visit us in the UK...
I have really freaked out because I am in a terrible dilemma..Little angel tells me to forget about it because not even cheating on my boyfriend is bad, but cheating on my boyfriend with his "then" best friend is even worse...and I really have feelings towards my boyfriend..I'm just not IN love with him anymore. Little devil cannot let me go of these thoughts. I think of John every day. We chat on msn constantly and when we meet, I can't forget those smiles and looks...but I guess that he is holding back as well...
To sum it up: I LOVE my boyfriend, but I AM IN LOVE with his "old" best friend. That's awful!!! What should I do I am not desperate to make love with John...even a kiss would do...just to share the passion with him...nothing more... but I still think that would be awful towards my boyfriend!! I really don't know what to do!!!

[Ash]

You Dont know what you want yet. you said you had fellings for your BF but you are not in love with him. But at the end you said you love him. you need to find out what you want and then go for that.

[melissa85]

Well,I will just say this....sit down with a clear head, not when you are giddy with love and rationalise. I mean think what made you fall in love with your boyfriend in the first place and then think what is it about the other guy you like so much. Is the other guy better looking, does he treat you better, is he smatter? If you can answer what you like about each and then see what it is you truly appreciate ina guy,you'll have ur answer... keep me posted

[bradd789]

Grow the hell up before you get in a relationship.

Get out of your relationship and just do what feels good. Don't get deep, you can't handle it.