This is an continuation of an earlier post from Nov 1st.

The girl that i am dating havent been out for almost three weeks now, i was in florida all last week for training so i guess its only really been two, but on to the subject. Tonite i thought we would have gone out, i called her asked what she was doing and said she was getting ready to go out with her girlfriends. I finally said something was bothering me,I told her i felt like she didnt want me around anymore and she said that was not the case. She said she dosent want things to go too fast between us and when someone starts to get close to her she backs off and has always done that. I said what she suggested i do then(kind of a stupid question i guess but it just came out) she responed with 'i couldnt tell you'. I asked if she was just giving me a polite blow off, and she said that was not the case. It did feel good to her say that. Why is she doing this?, is she really just setting me up for a break-up?, i can hear the sincerity in her voice though when she said those things tonite.

Any suggestings on how to proceed? do i just need a little patience?

thanks

Yep, this definitely needs some time. You should try and relax, don't try to interpret too many things in to what she says. She sounds very confused, and she'll only get there if you help her. Give her the time and the space, however long it takes. Do not pressure her, but make it crystal clear that you are still interested and will wait. She will come around eventually, and when she does, don't push her away out of petty revenge. That would hurt her more than you could imagine. She sounds a lot like a Libra, they are always difficult to get very close to. Give her some room, and avoid those doggy-eye looks - thats a passion killer.

This is an continuation of an earlier post from Nov 1st. The girl that i am dating havent been out for almost three weeks now, i was in florida all last week for training so i guess its only really been two, but on to the subject. Tonite i thought we would have gone out, i called her asked what she was doing and said she was getting ready to go out with her girlfriends. I finally said something was bothering me,I told her i felt like she didnt want me around anymore and she said that was not the case. She said she dosent want things to go too fast between us and when someone starts to get close to her she backs off and has always done that. I said what she suggested i do then(kind of a stupid question i guess but it just came out) she responed with 'i couldnt tell you'. I asked if she was just giving me a polite blow off, and she said that was not the case. It did feel good to her say that. Why is she doing this?, is she really just setting me up for a break-up?, i can hear the sincerity in her voice though when she said those things tonite. Any suggestings on how to proceed? do i just need a little patience? thanks

Each relationship is different. They each have their own special dynamics and dependencies and such. Since the relationship is still new, it's probably ood to just chill for a few weeks and let things go with the flow. She's probably had problems before with getting too involved too quickly...this can lead to problems later in the relationship that could have so easily been avoided if you had just taken your time. Patience is what's called for here.

But if she continues to avoid you weeks from now, perhaps it would be a good idea to rethink your level of involvement as well.

Good luck.

This is an continuation of an earlier post from Nov 1st. The girl that i am dating havent been out for almost three weeks now, i was in florida all last week for training so i guess its only really been two, but on to the subject. Tonite i thought we would have gone out, i called her asked what she was doing and said she was getting ready to go out with her girlfriends. I finally said something was bothering me,I told her i felt like she didnt want me around anymore and she said that was not the case. She said she dosent want things to go too fast between us and when someone starts to get close to her she backs off and has always done that. I said what she suggested i do then(kind of a stupid question i guess but it just came out) she responed with 'i couldnt tell you'. I asked if she was just giving me a polite blow off, and she said that was not the case. It did feel good to her say that. Why is she doing this?, is she really just setting me up for a break-up?, i can hear the sincerity in her voice though when she said those things tonite. Any suggestings on how to proceed? do i just need a little patience? thanks