Bumps in the road

off2sea · 4th October 2005, 9:14 AM

Hey all,
Just looking for a little insight on handling more "bumps in the road." Have been in a NC situation for almost 11 months now with the exception of a few generic txt messages that led to nothing. I got through the holidays, birthdays, ect with minimal discomfort and actually have been dating someone casually for about 2 months now. Of course that person is turning out not to be as great as I'd hoped- high maintenance and not so reliable. I promised myself I would never again wait for the phone calls & messages that never come, but I am. Additionally I just found out I will have to move again for work (3X in two years). I find myself now missing the ex again, just when I thought it was getting much better. I'd love to just talk to her but know that I can't. Advise, please...

JS17 · 4th October 2005, 2:43 PM

I remember your bday message post. I'm almost at the 8mo NC mark and I'm still not past it. Sometimes I think that it's never going to go away but then I think back to all of my relationships from long ago and remember that I don't miss those people or hurt from them anymore. It's all you can do to keep you going until you find your next love.

Jayhawks · 4th October 2005, 2:57 PM

I think it depends on how much you cared for the person. I have been in NC for 18 months with my ex and I still miss her sometimes. The hardest thing is I still see her on occasion. She still will not even say hello to me. Oh well. Her loss. She is just a very stubborn women. You will have ups and downs with someone you really cared for. If the breakup was sudden or unexpected it can really hurt for a long time. I know how it feels when you just want to sit and talk with them like you used to so when you have those feelings get with a friend of jump on Love Shack and let us help you.

Just keep plugging away. It is all we can do.

Art_Critic · 4th October 2005, 3:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Jayhawks

She still will not even say hello to me.

Damn JayHawks.. what a biotch.. I know the feeling though.. She is trying to make you pay forever..

off2sea · 4th October 2005, 3:20 PM

Thanks...It does seem when the chips are down so to speak, the missing part intensifies. Especially when another person lets you down as well (even unintentionally). Not sure if I should bail on that one before it becomes more hassle than pleasure.

JS17 · 4th October 2005, 3:29 PM

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Originally Posted by off2sea

Thanks...It does seem when the chips are down so to speak, the missing part intensifies. Especially when another person lets you down as well (even unintentionally).

Very very true off2sea

JS17 · 4th October 2005, 3:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Art_Critic

Damn JayHawks.. what a biotch.. I know the feeling though.. She is trying to make you pay forever..

It's a completely different situation but I wouldn't say hello to my ex if I saw him and I don't think that makes me a biotch. He hurt me really badly and it would only hurt me to talk to him. I also believe that he is undeserving of my resolving his guilt in the situation. Again, jayhawks situation and my own are very different. I would say hi to any other ex that I bumped into.

off2sea · 4th October 2005, 3:36 PM

I'm thinking I should follow my own advise and get rid of my phone for awhile- I can avoid making a call or text I will regret and also be less available for the one who's not so reliable either. Comments???